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Retos de criar adolescents Latinos en los Estados Unidos

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It's me, my name is thanks to williams. I work at the international office of public schools from when I 'm also a social worker.

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I'm alba morales I'm a bilingual facilitator for seven schools in the agrandó school system and I'm helping to facilitate this session. I'm educational, psychologist and I have a master's degree in education.

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And I want to know a little more about you. What are your names? What country do you come from and how many children do you have and if they are in school for how many years integrated.

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Very well: what school are the children.

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Ok and good daughter also comes to accompany.

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In the company of 20.

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They live with you.

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I am not permanent here. More than all, he.

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If the lady who, before.

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And knows how to educate them without the need for him.

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Thank you very much.

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Social worker also the wta. Ok, let's start, let's talk a little about the challenges of educating adolescents in the usa, like us, You already know, having children here and children in Mexico or not in other countries, schools, language, country are very different, and we are going to talk a little more about that.

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Today,. First of all,, we are going to do an activity. I. Want you to think about your relationships with your children, right now. or with your grandchildren,, your granddaughter,. How is that relationship?.

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But the nanny is mexican, so it is possible that she can attend our next conference in the spring because it is a web. This is open for all the people that are related to children from the cradle to the age of 18.

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The more people that can come and help the family- it is better, it is better. They tell me that everything is fine, but there are some things that you would like to improve in the relationship.

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Relationship well.

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And sometimes she gets uncomfortable.

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She speaks spanish western. How.

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She is spoken in spanish and understands the sea in spanish, the girl, english.

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So much hello, good.

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Thank you for coming. If you want to introduce your name, how many the children are and how old are the children.

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And what country do they come from or are they all mexicans here?

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I am also mexican. My parents are from mexico, but I was born here in the usa.

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What I already like the best well nice to come. We are talking a little bit of the relationships that we have with our children and you, sir, I want you to think a little about your relationship that you have with all your children and what that relationship is like,.

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Although they are great,.

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When the children grow up,, the relationship changes a little more.

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And something that affects them It can affect communication and also how they talk to each other,, how they treat each other, and we're going to talk a little more about that.

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The first years are all the children lived here in the schools. united states. You were born here, too, ok, but.

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But but the children, all the children were born here in.

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The usa, I want you to think about your first years in the usa when you first came, how were those years difficult, easy, interesting.

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Difficult form.

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Of the language, because the caliph.

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For all, seeing why how to move.

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And you always lived here in the children here were born in the middle and you ma'am come from california too. True.

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It is very different, california- and here true.

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Very different and the children when they are at school here, how do you think they feel at school? They have difficulties. A school is something that they can navigate.

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Well because they already know the language.

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We are always going to continue.

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We are not going to talk about reunification and separation because it seems to me ago that everyone was here with their children.

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With salinas together or first, you move.

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Ok, we are not going to talk about verification, no.

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Going to communication, because it seems to me that this is more important and everyone said a little that they wanted more information on that. We cannot continue another.

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Communication, how is communication when no one is listening to me when you are talking to your son or daughter, and the teacher is not there, the neighbor neighbor? How is that communication.

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Is beautiful, 100 of the time.

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Here here we can be honest m.

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You can think about it, and then you can be honest because here we only go to be. There has been a conversation.

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One thing and when the order came through a tube that is.

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I am very friendly, for example, when she is going to tell me something not.

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About what I have no.

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When she has a path, believing tell.

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Me, if you want to be like.

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This but it's me.

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And she knows it.

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I know it's hard and cruel for a teenager. Look at my country, but it's like my reality is not me. We try to be honest and see how it can't I can solve this. Sometimes,, sometimes he's sleeping when I get to work, and then he hit him because he's different.

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And I don't really feel like. He helps me, but I don't eat to sit down I.

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Understand that I understand how his daughter responds when you're giving her orders.

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Person is different and I. Imagine that I am also like you when I go home and tell my husband. We have to do this this and this we are going to do it and soon we don't do it and he is calmer. Today, Graciela wait like this. We don't want to do it, but that's me and I imagine that you are like that, but we have to think about how we are and how our children are different.

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Sometimes they are different and the way we talk to other people has to change if we are together drinking coffee and I. Imagine that our conversation is going to be like this, but I'm going to say, I'm having coffee with my soul, it's going to be a little more relaxed right.

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It's going to be different, l to exact communication,.

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The older girl spoke to them,.

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And I told her why,.

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Entity of the conversation, quality and time,, so we live in a world where young children, speed up,. My 5-year-old nephews have a daily agenda and he has the agenda and he writes,. He has an agenda,.

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Well, yes, but then, because he has therapy,, he has school,. He has play day,.

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So one of the people,.

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Have a 20-year-old son who is physically 20 years old, but I think mentally,.

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His maturity has not arrived and I can't find words, not even in English, for white people. The way I want to communicate something important, for example,. What are we going to do to be with us.

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But then I have heard from many mothers with many fathers. We use the time in the car to.

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Because in the car there is no way for them to get out from there. We are not face to face because we have to talk face to face your position. You become like a mother like a father here, the level The one about the conversation, changes that when you're on one side it doesn't end, you don't have to look into the eyes. It doesn't help with borders, confrontation and so we'll drive, we'll talk about what happened with the kings and then.

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Conversation comes out in your case. You He transports his children.

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In other states.

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And with the one who is in the house.

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Third, we are seeing that he is doing well, he is studying now he has a little better grade.

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Does not answer you.

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And when they open up, they are screaming. You are telling him look.

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Brother channel, he is doing very well thank.

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I match them teeth years. Is that vélez, as he said,.

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And he feels pressure because he has already graduated and he is expected to do something that the whole decision I think the conversation would be languages for other side and it is I, am going to support you. While you make this decision. Currently, my son is 20 years old.

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And not human power, so I told him ok to bad woke up when the decisions and I am with you.

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And you are saving, but basically you are doing work. Sometimes you return to contribute to the house. You are like you are still thinking about where you want to take.

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And that nation, how did they grow here?

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There was a time when the Communication- maybe it wasn't the best.

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And sports, maybe with the sea well.

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Clear what were his goals he wanted to do and we still cost a bit in identified. Lack of control.

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As he said an hour, a step back to leave them, so they have space to mature to where your own decisions, obviously not as parents. The first option is.

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Simply time well, I would say that by 28-26 already change all the situations that begin to be adult men and there.

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What age is it total.

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You working on are you looking that all the requirements that you need are already good for that very solid part, then different, and with each s if it is so easy, the sense of the culture where they are currently being sold.

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You have to say it. Yes, it does.

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Have a smell that is different enough from the other small ones in the midst of this creation of old age and I, think that is why, also because the big one only developed only began to the old ones, he was.

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Looking for work in the fox, without needing to elaborate this university.

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After putting nothing university of god, still 500 dollars for chili, which was.

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Still had left over.

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And you think that your son, who is here in this school, that he is noticing that relationship that you have with the oldest son and seeing the differences,, seeing that he does better for this other son,. They have him up. Here,.

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It doesn't matter that he doesn't have to help me at all,. I just want the student, for example, to be thin with the stick and the phone.

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Yes, you! No! Yes, you You study,, you don't need only what I don't understand, for example,. He doesn't even want to get his license,. We have to take him. Anywhere,, like one day he's going.

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To look for r work.

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You have to eat, he is 18 years old alone,.

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He is not yet where he is.

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And, on the other hand,.

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Direct experience.

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Within other options,.

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And which is? Which.

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Is coming academic.

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Others ask before we continue. We.

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Ok, an activity I want you to think about your countries and some of the differences in your country between the usa.

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Although the vitality and discipline is true in your country, as is the discipline.

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The parents raised me, they speak the orders and we do not give you the option.

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Go to the university.

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You do not say I, don't want to go to university.

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So at home my dad wanted to see me a desk.

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I want to be an artist artist and.

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How did it make you.

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Feel so then, look for what you decide what, because poor we are poor, so he sent me when I was very little. He started me to do secretarial courses. Things like this is.

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Not what I kind of identified, but that is why I already.

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Knew in advance that I did not want to see myself in a Chinese desk.

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Precisely if We are poor, like you,, you think that I am going to make you.

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Pay for university 45.

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Years in the end, I do not want that so nine alcohols and I studied multimedia.

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Still does not exist in my country and so photography.

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And that's what I live on well here: I live cleaning tables, but in my 12-year-old country, with my profession, with a photographic, studio and I was earning more money than a person who.

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Good this, unfortunately, for me, is not alive to see that.

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You see me delighted because I.

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Only wanted to see me come true in the end, not.

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Necessarily the written wish because It's like the easiest thing to get an accountant job to use so.

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That's like the difference is flour. When we talk.

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About dedicating the records from three days ago, for the first sprint with Sabina and food present,.

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That I have two, one of seven.

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Little ones- and it's sitting next to me,, he tells me the issue has arrived, but university and university. What I don't spend money and time a university can be now. He just wanted me that that's p, because the weather is not very good and I am not going to put her for example,. Nothing says that she wants to be a color that wants to work with consistent people and joy. American.

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If you have my support, it is in a difference that still, for example, It is very ingrained in me. I didn't want to do it. I didn't want to follow it. What my role tried to do to me, but it 's like I, say, but as they thought, based on my own experience, I 'm poor anyway.

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Believe it's very common.

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In Hispanics, what the parents say is what came down, and here in the usa it is a little different and especially with the children who grew up here in the usa. They are living from two cultures, one hispanic and one american, and they have to strike a balance between the two and it can be difficult because of the parents who want to like this like this like this, and then there are the schools in which they are telling you that you can do what you want to do, no matter how much it will cost you.

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It is your dream and then the parents, More, are thinking money, money money when I have to pay it 's a balance truth that more is different between their countries and this country or the discipline or how things are at home.

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The differential.

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Everything that.

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The language is really different.

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Go to school and speak english, english and english when they come to the.

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House who speak.

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Spanish spanish.

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Never speak english.

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With me, because.

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Because of gehry.

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And she not me and what.

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Happens when they tell her something- and they don't understand what it means they are.

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Saying I tell her to repeat myself sometimes, unfortunately, she does not have it registered in Spanish some, because not me at four years old, so.

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Already learns English.

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Know more than I do that therefore, I know that they do not have it registered there. Spanish I know I, let them pass,. He asks her.

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But it can't be so with the language the food.

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Food is also very different.

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The little girl looks at me more It's, big. That forces me to cook something Dominican American.

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But I tell him more, I.

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For wear and tear, he.

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Arrives by the minute.

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As you can see from that laugh, he.

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Says sometimes I imagine he.

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Speaks English at home.

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And Spanish: ok in.

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Case for what a.

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The case of his.

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Great-Granddaughter she speaks to him in Spanish. He answers in Spanish. Yes, because there are many small children whose mother speaks to one of them in Spanish, but they are not Spanish. They answer in English.

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Because maybe the words.

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For express from you.

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Look, they are learning Spanish daily, but in Spanish there.

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A mistake that many teachers.

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Make sometimes they tell a 7-year- old child that an interpreter comes just arriving that and it is impossible because you.

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Use our children to get there to the doctor's appointment.

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They don't have to speak English.

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Yes, because, even though she's.

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In the country.

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To the children, she doesn't speak English, but she doesn't speak English to them and they go pe Learning Spanish and to grow.

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Go to university that hurts them, because if they speak, if they are vines, then they have more opportunities, because other people are not, and here.

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But they also know English.

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They are used so that she does not lose the language, but always too.

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They have found a balance between the two for you, sir. Your older children have served as Spanish.

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Ones spoke more.

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And what is the balance they took that you think it is.

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When the neighbor brings them a program.

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For when they arrive, if one speaks Spanish and academic English to them, the university of the English language.

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Clearly so they receive us.

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The academic part.

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Otherwise, no, it has not been.

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At the time what development does in your brain.

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Really does not have.

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And they are not the first ones that.

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In your house, that is the balance of English and Spanish as.

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Well, initially, as I have a child d e special education.

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To their presence.

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Things different, a good part d, education.

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In mathematics.

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Someone else about language, education,.

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And something else in English, it is said day link, and that is something different.

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What is going to happen.

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And concentrate, and so on, My dad doesn't give me an order and I. Thank him. He told me.

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My first name I fell in love. He treated me like a queen and to the sun.

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And here in this country it's a little different, so.

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That worries me because it kind of They act like they're friends but they're.

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Boyfriends, he's my.

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Moves and so on with friends and the parents usually tell you hunger.

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They have friends here.

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I try to talk about friends, just like you, know,.

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Looking out for her.

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Can seem like a dictator.

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Alone: If, a supervising adult trusts you,. How does.

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Your daughter respond when they,.

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Very strange, invited me when I was in Coco and.

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When it says phone number,.

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Dressed in their clothes,.

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Are going to arrive because we arrived.

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This parked vehicle that arrives well, the number with all the references is.

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Knock on the door to continue on 10, so I, say I.

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And I am here to help you.

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On Monday, please I need you to ask your friend some answers.

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Home because we arrived because later as we arrived late for washington, so I told her.

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That reason there is no need to call her. There are no outings like this.

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The environment is little things that I will never change that and I.

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Just I say to her I: don't always.

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But I love you too much.

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That's the only thing, but here he gave me a lot because of the injuries and the.

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Pain that I have to him. You know.

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You're not leaving answer.

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You know why, then the pressure on the neck.

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And we're going to have three years so far it's been fine I! Don't do it frustrated with that? You have to go to places of arrival I'm if.

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That's wrong your rule in the house and you're right because of what happened to him and for.

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Gentlemen, that your daughter is in the north camping. She has talked about boyfriends and I, want to go out with this good boy.

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Father tells you.

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There are things that they tell me on the line I.

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That scares me, but for the space.

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There in mexico, in a country.

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Or wants to share something that.

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But also because of the seat, I am today with a fair process.

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It has a prize which ones don't, but it was used by my culture to stay because there's no way,, there's no.

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Reason why I'm going to tell you one thing,.

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In schools, like, in this part, communication, with that subject of correction, like that,.

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In the way that I,.

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To see where the line is that they lived.

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When they leave bruises, there are marks that.

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With two brands of liquor hall in centers, but.

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Always talking with.

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In primary school, there is a program that basically school, the school counselor r is not 5 autistics that supports the education or learning process, then, and from speaking I, remember the name of the program.

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Every day every day the children have 10 diaries and it is throughout the whole school where he spoke about values, and every month or every month. There is a value.

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One of the topics is, for.

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Example,, it is the security part of the things that are reinforced in primary schools,, especially it is security,.

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I, don't know, and physically abusing normally and that's why a little boy from 6 years.

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To 911, but it's because it's him to avoid the music. They talk about insurance with adults. They don't know.

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And someone tells him.

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Kidnappings, it's this type of education. Now, in the child's mind, and the way it was.

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Not that it means that the police are going to take to fame.

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Service services.

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Would be the answer in schools, the internet.

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S: the health class, how I.

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Another person.

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After your p father, your father with a friend on a subject.

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Here, I have some resources for you, the community or basque disorder in Bonn and wherever you live, and also the numbers of other people who speak Spanish.

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Dental medical things.

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And other questions before we finish.

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You very much for sharing.

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