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From YouTube: The Vision - White Ribbon
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City of Chelsea
Full Show
The Vision - Host: Dr. Sandra Whitley
Guest: HarborCov.
White Ribbon - March 26, 2020, 6-8pm, 140 American Legion Hwy, Revere
Video Production by Chelsea Cable TV
A
Good
evening,
Chelsea
welcome
to
the
vision.
I
am
your
host
this
evening,
and
my
name
is
dr.
Sandra
Whitley
each
episode
we
introduced
to
you
very
special
guests.
Without
a
vision
the
people
perish,
so
I
will
introduce
to
you
this
evening,
our
very,
very,
very
special
guest
who
is
doing
remarkable
and
amazing.
Work
in
this
community
of
Chelsea
bring
an
awareness
to
everyone
about
how
our
girls,
our
women,
our
men
and
boys,
can
have
better
relationships
with
one
another.
A
B
You
so
much
dr.
Whitley
for
having
me
here
today
by
your
introduction,
I
feel
very,
very
special,
so
I'm
Cupid
I'm,
an
executive
director
at
hyper
Cove
and
today
we're
gonna,
take
the
opportunity
to
talk
about
who
we
are,
what
we
do,
what
community
we
reserve
so
hobbico
provides
safe
and
supportive
services
for
survivors
domestic
violence.
We
have
a
24-hour
crisis
hotline
case
management
for
individuals
and
families.
We
provide
economic
support
for
families
and
individual.
We
also
provide
housing
and
supportive
services.
We
also
do
public
education
and
training
for
the
community
as
well.
B
B
B
Yes
to
have
yes,
we
also
provide.
We
call
emergency
to
permanent
housing
for
survivor
throughout
the
state
throughout
the
country
and
some
time
international
people
who
just
have
to
flee
domestic
violence,
and
they
need
just
like
a
safe
place
to
stay.
So
they
can
call
a
hotline.
They
can't
call
a
business
line
as
well,
so
through
a
housing
reso
about
300
survivor
annually,
and
we
are
we
answer
about
1500
crisis
hotline
1500.
Yes,.
D
B
B
B
Yes,
yes,
we
have
so
many
success
stories.
Well,
as
you
know,
Chelsea
dominantly,
we
have
a
lot
of
survivor
from
immigrants.
Community,
okay,
spanish-speaking
community,
at
the
largest
population,
be
served.
So
we
work
with
many
many
immigrant
survivors.
We
provide
immigration.
Legal
support
through
TVs
are
viable
spousal,
petition
and
view
visa
as
well.
We
I
just
want
to
share
with
you
one
successful
story.
E
B
A
A
A
G
F
H
B
The
white
ribbon
campaign
it
went
so
the
white
ribbon
campaign
is
the
statewide
runs
and
usually
it
kicked
off
in
the
first
March.
Okay
and
most
local
community
kind
of
have
their
event
throughout
the
years,
and
so
I'm
gonna
turn
it
to
Nancy
to
speak
about
what
the
white
ribbon
day.
Event
is:
okay,.
A
You're
gonna
make
sure
that
you
explain
the
white
ribbon,
so
that's
what
Nancy,
so
we
want
okay,
Nancy
well,
welcome
we're
so
glad
to
have
you
as
well.
The
family
engagement
manager
at
Harbor
Cove,
so
welcome.
Welcome.
Welcome
so
will
tell
us
and
give
us
a
little
bit
more
background
and
especially
explain
white
ribbon.
Yes,.
H
Well,
I'm
very
pleased
to
be
able
to
talk
about
the
white
ribbon
campaign
because
it's
a
international
campaign
to
end
violence
against
women
and
girls,
where
men
and
boys
are
invited
to
take
the
lead
in
this.
And
it
is
a
campaign
that
started
in
Canada,
which
is
my
home
country
and
that
began
in
1991
in
Toronto.
Actually
the
the
city
where
I
used
to
live
as
well.
Oh.
H
F
H
A
H
A
D
A
B
B
B
As
you
know,
the
statistics
show
that
one
in
three
women,
one
in
four
men,
have
experienced
some
type
of
intimate
partner
violence
in
their
lifetime.
Yes-
and
you
know
a
pet
and
I
want
to
also
address
about
the
gun
as
well.
A
present
of
a
garden
in
a
domestic
violence
situation
increases
the
risk
of
homicide
by
five
hundred
percent
five.
F
B
A
B
D
D
H
H
A
The
passion
and
the
fact
that
you
all
invited
various
members
of
our
community
to
come
and
say
you
know
what
we
can't
do
this
alone,
but
we
can
do
it
if
we
come
together
as
a
community,
and
so
this
is
beautiful
and
we
really
applaud
the
two
of
you
for
all
that
you
have
done
and
what
you
will
continue
to
do
and
the
for
the
success
of
the
event
on
March
226.
So
thank
you
that
when
we
return
we
will
be
joined
by
the
rest
of
the
planning
committee.
A
Welcome
back,
we
have
now
joining
with
us
the
rest
of
the
planning
committee
for
the
white
ribbon
event.
So
I
would
like
for
each
one
of
us
to
tell
us
a
little
bit
something
about
yourself,
because
this
is
the
special
group
I
want
you
all
to
know
this,
and
so
we
will
start
with
you.
Ricky
give
us
your
name
and
where
you
work,
where
you're
from
and
something
special
about
me
yeah
and
something
very.
I
A
A
I
G
Dr.
Witt
IM
tamale,
Rideau
I'm,
a
city
councilor
here
in
Chelsea-
something
special
about
me
is
that
not
only
do
I
have
a
biological
child.
I'm
a
mother
but
I
also
do
a
lot
of
youth
work.
So
I'm
like
a
community
mom
to
a
lot
of
young
people.
A
lot
of
young
boys
I
run
a
basketball
league,
and
so
it's
really
important
for
me
to
make
sure
that
I'm
being
a
positive
example
and
leaving
them
in
the
right
direction.
G
J
Took
Jonathan,
Parsons
and
I
had
I
raised
four
kids
and
I
have
eight
grandchildren
and
I
got
involved
with
the
men's
work
with
Robert
Bly
and
in
the
1970s
I
can
still
remember
the
feelings
of
being
wounded
when
I
encountered
the
feminists
or
the
t-shirt.
That
says
a
woman
needs.
A
man
like
a
fish
needs
a
bicycle,
so
I've
been
sort
of
working
on
that
issue.
Ever
since.
E
A
E
E
K
A
K
K
K
E
G
A
She
brought
us
all
together
with
this
very
diverse
backgrounds
that
we
have
for
a
cause,
as
we
heard
Nancy
say
earlier,
because
we're
going
to
end
this
and
with
getting
the
community
together
and
really
allowing
ourselves
to
just
open
up
and
talk
to
one
another,
because
when
we
see
each
other,
you
know
who
would
have
thought
you
know
just
even
with
your
backgrounds,
but
when
we
realize
that
you
know
that
there
is
something
more
to
each
one
of
us
and
all
of
us.
You
know
I'd
love
to
say
this.
A
We
just
want
love,
but
it's
coming
out
in
the
wrong
way
because
of
the
increase
in
violence,
and
when
you
talk
about
relationships
and
that's
the
whole
key
thing,
we
need
to
understand
how
to
build
and
what
it
looks
like
to
be
in
good
relationships
right.
So
then
I
want
to
just
start.
So
how
is
it
that
you
are
here?
What
was
it
that
Carew
said
to
invite
you
all
to
be
a
part
of
this
planning
committee
I
word
this
event
for
the
right
women.
So
how.
G
G
All
right
so
last
year,
I
was
city
council
president
and
Carew
had
approached
me
because
she
it
was
so
funny
because
she
said
you
know
we
want
to
do
something
for
White
Ribbon
Day,
but
we
don't
want
to
just
do
the
same
thing.
We
want
to
go
a
little
deeper
like
we
don't
want
to
keep
doing
this
work.
We
want
to
end
violence
against
women.
Violence
is
a
learned
behavior.
We
can
unlearn
it,
so
we
need
to
do
something
a
little
deeper,
and
so
she
called
this
meeting
was.
G
Calls
a
meeting
with
some
leaders
in
the
community,
the
city
manager,
chief
of
police,
I.
Don't
remember
if
you
were
there,
but
there
were
a
couple
of
other
people
in
the
group
and
we
were
just
figuring
out.
What
can
we
do
and
it's
funny
because
I've
known
Carew
for
a
long
time,
we
come
from
a
history
of
restorative
justice,
circle,
training
and
facilitating
those
types
of
healing
spaces,
but
she
wanted
to
do
it
in
a
in
a
field
where
we're
talking
about
police
and
fire,
and
mayors
and
city
managers.
G
G
K
Multiple
months,
many
months
back,
it
came
across
my
path
that
the
larger
circle
was
meeting
at
the
Revere,
Police,
Department
and
I.
Believe
I
was
on
shift,
so
my
chief
said:
there's
an
important
event
happening
right
down
the
street
I
need
you
to
go
as
Chiefs
can
get
their
schedules
can
get
out
of
hand
really
fast.
So
that's
when
I
came
and
I
was
fascinated
by
the
discussion
and
idea
about
going
deeper
and
exploring
trend
in
a
trance
transformative
way.
K
For
us
for
this
topic
right
and
that's
where
I
asked
that
question,
you
know
where,
where
my
interests
lie,
you
know
the
intersection
of
intoxicating
substances
with
violence
and
waking
up
to
the
different
types
of
power
people
have
and
how
power
can
be
addictive
in
itself
and
I
asked
some
question
related
to
that
and
then
I
was
approached
to
fly
those
fabulous.
Ladies.
I
So
I
got
an
email.
The
DEA
got
an
email
to
come
and
participate
in
a
conversation
around
masculinity,
and
then
they
got
kicked
to
me,
which
I'm
glad
writing
that
time.
In
my
life,
I
had
just
seen
surviving
our
Kelly
I
was
a
documentary
day
in
our
Netflix.
A
long
story
show
that
detailed,
the
abuse
of
young
girls
and
when
I
watched
it
I,
remember
being
a
teenager
at
that
time
and.
D
I
Remember
how
it
was
a
joke.
It
was
funny
the
things
that
would
happen,
girls
being
peed
on
and
when
I
watch
it
this
time
as
a
dad.
My
alarm
went
off
that
went
off
and
and
after
I
watched
it
I
reached
out
to
a
community
activist
in
Boston
and
said
we
have
to
bring
young
people
together
to
react
to
this,
like
I,
want
to
hear
the
reaction.
I
So
as
we
started
facilitating
these
conversations,
the
term
toxic
masculinity
came
up,
and
it
was
the
first
time
that
it
registered
in
my
soul
and
as
I
listened
as
I
listened
my
invite
from
to
come
and
be
a
part
of
the
masculinity
conversation.
It
was
right
on
the
heels
of
a
journey
I
had
had
started
like
I
was
now
on
that
journey
and
open,
and
so
I
was
grateful
to
come
and
when
I
walked
in
it
was
fire
chiefs
and
police.
I
I
E
Absolutely
so
I
was
lucky
enough
to
join
the
district
attorney's
office
in
August
and
when
I
came
on
I
think
about
a
month
and
a
half
into
it,
we
got
the
invitation
to
come
again
to
the
work
that
you
guys
are
doing
to
one
of
the
circles
and
I
was
just
incredibly
impressed
with
the
work
that
I
saw.
That
was
happening
here.
E
The
dedication
I
think
a
part
of
the
reason
that
I'm
always
attracted
to
being
within
institutions
that
hold
policy
and
power
is
because
I
understand
that
experience
and
bringing
that
knowledge
to
bear
in
that
space
is
what's
really
gonna,
get
us
to
a
place
where
we
can
move
and
see
some
outcomes
and
some
impact
and
so
being
able
to
be
a
part
of
something.
That's
deep
impact
work
was
incredibly
exciting
for
me
being
in
conversations
around
domestic
violence.
Around
toxic
masculinity
is
something
that
I
do
in
my
life
on
a
consistent
basis.
E
I
was
always
a
girl
in
the
neighborhood
who
had
all
the
guys
who
were
friends.
I
also
had
all
my
set
of
girls,
who
were
friends
as
well,
but
ever
since
I
was
a
teenager.
I
was
always
in
conversation
with
my
male
friends
about
relationships
about
how
they're
relating
to
women,
having
experienced
and
and
lived
in
a
family
unit
where
domestic
violence
was
also
present.
It
was
something
that
was
always
at
the
forefront
of
my
mind
and
so
being
able
to
now
utilize.
D
A
You
know
I
know
of
the
almighty
who
just
says
you
know
what
we
should
consider
a
joy,
because
we
just
don't
know
it's
going
to
increase
our
faith
and
it's
going
to
cause
us
to
present
beer
and
with
with
with
with
everything
that
we
have
the
motivation,
the
experiences
and
then
the
education,
and
when
we
see
that
this
is
a
really
big
problem,
not
just
locally
but
internationally
and
with
the
passion
that
you
all
have
I,
just
believe
that
the
vision
is
going
to
move
forward.
So
with
that,
then
there
are
goals.
A
D
F
I
Is
happening
right
and
it
we're
all
responsible
for
it
and,
in
the
end,
the
men,
those
you
know,
we're
the
ones
who
are
doing
the
harm
were
most
responsible
for
it.
I
think
the
first
piece
is
just
awareness
doing
know:
what's
going
on,
do
we
understand
what's
gonna?
Do
we
understand
the
impact?
Because
awareness
is
the
first
step
to
be
able
to
do
anything
about
it?
The
first
thing
we
have
to
do
was
actually
put
it
on
the
table.
G
An
awareness,
okay
and
deepen
the
understanding
of
where
what
the
root
causes
of
this
violence
is
and
asking
these
leaders
that
are
in
positions
of
power
men
in
particular
to
not
only
now
that
you're
aware
of
it,
but
all
right.
So
how
are
you
going
to
step
up,
and
so
these
conversations,
so
we've
had
three
circles
so
far
with
a
corps
of
about
thirty
to
forty
men
and
women
in
positions
of
power
and
we've
been
having
these
conversations
for
a
year
and
maybe.
A
G
Okay,
so
basically,
what's
a
tradition
that
goes
back
years,
that
Native
American
Jews
and
it's
just
a
great
fit
for
me.
What
are
these
circles
are
an
opportunity
where,
as
opposed
to
doing
a
lecture,
it's
I'm
not
teaching
you
anything,
we're
all
learning
from
one
another,
so
we're
all
teachers
and
we're
all
students.
G
It's
passed
around
and
you
can
only
speak
if
you
have
the
talking
piece
and
there
might
be
a
prompt
and
so
to
allow
the
opportunity
to
have
everyone
speak,
make
sure
that
everyone
speaks,
and
you
start
to
see
the
magic
of
what
the
circle
does.
As
the
talking
piece
goes
around
I
know
that
for
the
first
circle
we
had
the
honor
of
having
Jonathon
host
that,
along
with
one
another
planning.
Remember,
that's
not
here
I'm
Eric
and
as
a
talking
piece
went
around.
G
So
of
course,
naturally
you
have
men
and
people
in
a
circle
where
this
conversation
is
not
being
had
anywhere,
and
so
you
get
the
talking
piece
and
the
question
might
be.
What
do
you
think
healthy
masculinity
is-
and
this
is
just
an
example
and
so
begin
there
for
my
daughter
and
it's
just
very
superficial
stuff.
G
G
A
G
D
G
Workers,
DA's
office,
clergy,
clergy,
yeah
reference,
all
city,
councilors,
mayor
city
manager,
yeah
and
we've
really
been
putting
pressure
like
okay.
So
how
are
you
going
to
step
up?
How
are
you
going
to
help
us
and
aid
in
this
vision
and
they
have
been
and
and
I
think
I
just
want
to
say
not
to
take
away
from
Carew,
because
I
think
she
did
a
great
job
at
organizing,
but
that
the
reason
that
the
planning
committee
is
growing
was
very
organic.
I
think
it's
because
we
all
know
deep
down
inside
that.
G
C
F
E
Know
oftentimes:
when
we're
having
discussions
about
these
issues,
it
feels
very
cold
and
distant
from
our
everyday
reality.
We're
looking
at
statistics,
we're
looking
at
numbers,
we're
not
hearing
the
human
impact,
and
so
I
really
feel
as
if
this
is
an
opportunity
for
us
to
be
able
to
humanize
the
experience
of
what
it
really
means
to
look
at
violence
against
women
and
really
look
at
that
root
cause
and
how
we
are
all
contributing
in
some
way.
E
One
of
the
things
that
I
like
to
say
is
that,
if
we're
not
actively
working
against
an
ism,
we
are
probably
perpetrating
it
right,
and
so
this
is
an
opportunity.
It's
a
call
to
action
really
for
us
to
start
to
self-examine.
First
I
think
a
lot
of
times
when
we
think
about
movements
we
think
about
what
externally
do
we
need
to
do?
You
know
what
we
need
to
do
outside
of
the
community,
but
really
it
starts
with
self
examining
and
I.
Think.
That's
really
why
this
has
been
so
powerful.
E
For
me
to
be
a
part
of
is
that
I
have
rarely
been
in
a
space
where
people
recognize
that
before
we
start
talking
about
what
initiative
we're
gonna
put
together
before
we
start
talking
about
how
we're
going
to
work
together,
the
conversation
needs
to
start
with.
Where
are
you?
Where
are
you
as
an
individual
who
holds
power
in
this
space?
Where
are
you
as
a
man
who
holds
power
in
this
space,
and
how
do
you
start
to
self-examine
the
way
that
you
act
down
on
a
daily
basis
and
how
that
then
impacts
the
community?
A
That's
a
man
right
there,
all
right,
okay!
Well,
you
know
what
I
just
want
to
just
that's
a
segue
into
all
right.
Let's,
let's
talk
about
some
stories,
yeah
yeah
sure
some
of
your
stories
all
right,
that's
some
so
that
our
audience
and
those
that
we
are
wanting
to
make
sure
that
they
come
and
not
be
fearful
and
and
about
this
event,
and
even
though
we
are
attracting
and
one
attract
men,
because
it
is
the
awareness
and
but
if,
let's
just
just
give
me
a
little
bit
of
a
little
snippet
before.
G
A
G
So
that
it's
not
an
accusatory
thing,
you
know
I
feel
like
as
we
evolved
as
human
beings
and
we
almost
forget
how
to
communicate
with
one
another,
and
it's
just
like
tearing
down
the
conditioning
and
going
back
to
our
basic
humanity
and
unlearning.
Some
of
these
behaviors
that
are
toxic
and
I.
Don't
ever
want
to
be
part
of
a
conversation
where
any
man
or
boy
or
boy.
F
G
A
You
for
laying
that
it's
the
platform,
because
that's
the
whole
thing
it's
that
we
have
to
stop.
It
needs
to
start
with
us
just
no
matter
what
category,
no
matter,
what
issue
it
needs
to
stop
where
we
blame.
It
appears
that
we're
blaming
condemning
and
judging
we
want
to
bring
people
in,
and
how
do
we
do
that?
And
so
again
it's
like
Daniel
was
saying
you
know
be
able
to
talk,
lessen
the
threat
and,
and
let
people
in
be
vulnerable.
A
A
First
of
all,
we
want
to
bring
you
in,
but
it's
not
to
beat
you
up
right,
so
we're
looking
at
be
courageous,
be
strong
and
that's
what
I
believe
guys
can
identify
with,
but
it's
also
good
that
we
have
the
diversity
of
gender,
male
and
female.
Because
see
you
brought
us
right
back
into
that
because
you're,
a
mother,
you
know
you
bring
us
back
to
coz.
If
I
have
sons
or
if
I
have
a
daughter,
you
know
I
can't
be
pitting.
You
know
one
against
the
other
gender.
I
I
I
think
around
the
whole
time
when,
when
Carew
invited
me,
a
friend
of
mine
had
sent
me
a
video,
it
was
of
the
Macho
Man
Randy
Savage
right,
professional
wrestler
in
the
80s,
and
so
he
sent
it
to
me
two
minute
video.
So
he
was
doing
one
of
his
typical
interviews
right.
He
was
interviewed
his
girlfriend's
with
him,
the
news
from
I
think
1985
and
in
the
video
he
tells
her
a
couple
times.
If
you
do
that,
I
miss
Mack,
you
I
told
you
I'll
slap
right.
I
This
is
just
WWF,
and
so
the
following
text
he
sent
me
is
bro.
This
is
what
we
grew
up
on
floored
you
right
because
1985-1986
on
the
four
I'm
five
right,
and
so
those
kinds
of
messages
and
I
want
to
say
this
to
the
brothers
like
those
kinds
of
messages
that
we
internalize
that
helped
us
to
grow.
We
started
to
build
our
manhood
off
of
that,
there's
no
mistake
and
why
we
are
where
we
are
right
now.
So
the
thing
I
had
to
realize
for
myself
and
when
I
talk
to
other
men
is
with
victims.
I
D
I
A
you
know
like
when
I
was
watching
the
video
in
that
video.
It
wasn't
on
her
place
to
speak
that
wasn't.
That
was
an
ideology
that
was
being
broadcast
across
the
screen
to
millions
of
Americans
that
he's
talking.
You
stay
in
your
place,
right,
it's
explicit
and
implicit.
So
what
do
boys
do
with
that
right?
So
so
then
I
go
look
at
girls
and
I,
say
you're
here
to
serve
me,
that's
right
and
when
I
want
you,
you
come
and
when
I'm
done
with
you,
you
go.
So
what
does
that
breed?
I
A
D
I
I
I
You
get
exposed
to
truth
in
a
way
where
you
can
not
close
your
eyes
to
it.
You
must
deal
with
it
and
I'm
that
kind
of
person
like
if
it
comes
to
me.
It's
in
mine,
you
have
to
deal
with
it
like
I,
had
to
deal
with
this
so
again,
I'm
so
grateful
to
beat
up,
because
this
is
not
just
for
Dennis.
For
me,
I'm
here
for
me,
I'm
here,
for
my
healing
too
so
to
the
men
and
the
boys
who
are
gonna
come
I'm
join
us
men
who
are
here
we're
getting
our
healing
soon.
I
K
K
They'll
want
to
move
away,
they'll
be
inclined
to
hide
because
coming
out
into
these
truth
is
painful
times
and
and
and
like
you
said,
we're
not
allowed
to
feel
feeling
is
not
okay,
we're
only
allowed
a
tiny
little
sliver
in
the
category
of
feeling
rage.
Anger
right,
upset
madness,
so
my
challenge
to
men
is
come
to
this
event.
Come
to
this
event,
these
considerations
have
been
taken
seriously.
K
D
F
A
E
It's
really
an
incredible
company
to
be
in,
and
so
just
you
know,
piggybacking
on
on
what
you
guys
were
talking
about
in
terms
of
this
internalization,
of
not
being
able
to
really
express
and
being
given
very
limited
ways
of
being
in
the
world.
Just
also
to
to
your
point
referent
in
terms
of
what
this
toxic
mean.
Toxic
means,
not
anything
that
limits
us
from
being
able
to
live
out
our
full
humanity
right,
and
that
includes
that
that's
it's
toxic
from
women
and
just
as
he
pointed
out,
it's
toxic
for
men
as
well.
E
So
the
story
that
you're
referring
to
is
one
day
I
was
walking
up
the
street.
With
my
son,
we
were
coming
from
his
football
practice
and
I
could
hear
screaming
on
the
street
and
I
wasn't
sure
what
was
happening
until
I
got
closer
and
I
realized.
It
was
a
teenage
boy
and
he
was
beating
up
his
girlfriend.
E
I
put
my
son
in
the
house
and
I
ran
back
out
to
intervene
so
as
I'm
approaching
I'm
trying
to
think
about
what
my
approach
is
going
to
be
in
terms
of
this
intervention,
another
woman
along
the
street
stops
and
jumps
out
of
her
car
as
well.
She
starts
to
intervene.
She
physically
puts
her
body
in
between
I
physically
put
my
body
in
between.
She
takes
the
girl
to
one
side.
I
take
the
boy
to
one
side,
and
you
know
her
messaging
was
of
course,
immediate
alarm
right.
E
We
were
alarmed
that
a
were
looking
at
these
two
very
young
people.
In
this
very
sad
situation.
You
know
he
didn't
seem
as
if
he
was
out
of
control.
He
seemed
scared
almost
as
well.
He
seemed
sad,
he
seemed
he
was
trying
to
pull
her
back
in
by
the
time
we
had
gotten
to
them
right.
He
had
finished
hitting
her,
and
so
it
was
the
you
know,
comeback
right,
and
so
the
woman
was
saying
to
the
girl.
This
is
not
what
you
need
like
do
not
listen
to
him.
Come
with
me.
E
I
will
take
you
home
and,
of
course
the
girl
was
crying
and
she
didn't
really
want
to
leave.
She
wasn't
really
quite
sure
what
she
wanted
to
do
yet
and
I
could
see
the
young
man
starting
to
rise
in
terms
of
his
level
of
reaction,
because,
as
I
said,
he
was
scared
and
he
was
sad
and
he
wasn't
really
seeming
aggressive,
but
at
the
same
point
in
time,
I
could
see
that
rising
because
he
felt
as
though
his
options
were
starting
to
be
limited
in
terms
of
where
his
power
was
or
what
he
could
do.
E
In
that
moment,
this
girl
is
gonna.
This
woman
is
gonna,
take
my
girlfriend
away,
and
so
my
intervention
to
him
was,
you
know,
I
could
approach
it
in
terms
of.
Why
are
you
doing
this?
You
shouldn't
be
doing
this
and
kind
of
attack
in
that
way,
but
I
said
you
know,
this
looks
like
a
young
man,
who's
a
good
person,
so
I
just
said
to
him.
Why
are
you
doing
this?
This
seems
like
somebody
who
you
genuinely
care
about.
I
just
heard
you
speak
to
her.
E
You
know
in
terms
of
wanting
her
to
be
around
and
loving
her,
and,
and
so
why
would
you
choose
to
express
your
love
in
this
way
and
I
could
tell
it
kind
of
knocked
him
off
his
game
a
little
bit
because
I
don't
think
he
was
anticipating
me
approaching
him
in
that
way,
and
he
just
said
no
I'm
just
upset.
You
know
it's
just
a
misunderstanding
and
I
said
you
know
what
you
look
like.
You
are
really
escalated
right
now.
Do
you
do
you
actually
need
a
hug
right
now?
E
Do
you
just
need
to
calm
down
a
minute
from
this
emotional
place
that
you're
at
and
she
took
a
second
and
he
said
yeah
I
could
use
a
hug,
and
so
I
hugged
him
and
about
five
seconds
into
the
hug
he
got
deeper.
He
held
me
tighter
and
he
started
to
bawl
and
for
me
it
was
just
one
of
those
moments
that
was
incredibly
impactful,
because
this
was
a
young
man
who
was
hurting.
E
So
to
kind
of
remove
that
as
a
trigger
and
I
started
to
talk
to
the
young
man
and
just
encourage
him
and
say:
listen
I
can
offer
you
support.
I
can
offer
you
community
resources,
because
you
need
to
tell
me
if
this
is
something
you
want
to
continue
to
do.
Is
this
the
way
you
want
to
be,
and
he
said
no,
it's
not
the
way
I
want
to
be
I
want
to
do
something
different,
and
so
from
that
I
was
able
to
connect
him.
E
You
know
to
some
men
who
I
knew
in
the
community
who
would
be
good
role,
models
who
could
be
good
mentors
and
who
can
connect
them
to
some
other
community-based
organizations
where
he
could
potentially
get
some
of
the
help
that
he
needed.
When
you
really
looked
at
the
base
of
what
he
needed,
it
was
self
esteem
right.
He
needed
a
job.
He
needed
all
kinds
of
different
things
to
kind
of
build
himself
up
so
that
he
didn't
feel
so
powerless
in
the
world
and.
A
The
reason
why
I
thought
about
that,
because
you
were
speaking
and-
and
this
is
the
the
part
of
the
anger-
you
know-
we're-
not
taught
how
to
handle
anger,
and
so
this
was
a
scenario,
at
least
that
I
heard
about
that.
You
know
you
were
able
to.
You
know
not
run
from
it,
not
call
the
cops
and
let
them
come
and
take
him
to
jail,
I
know
without
understanding
and
being
there
for
him,
and
so
when
you
were
saying
that
Sarco
I
thought
I
was
thinking.
C
A
D
K
For
me,
the
the
intersection
of
the
communities
with
the
people,
it
happens
for
real,
it's
what
I'm
tasks,
tasks
to
do
right
and
the
prevention
component
that
we
started.
Looking
at
right
with
the
first
group
that
you're
speaking
with
Nancy
and
kuru
prevention.
How
are
we
going
to
come
across
the
data?
We
need
to
find
the
people
who
need
help
and
then,
when
we
find
that
information,
what
are
we
gonna
do
with
it?
K
So
for
me,
it's
wonderful
that
there's
five
communities
here,
working
together
to
network
so
that
we
have
the
correct
people,
the
correct
mentors,
the
correct
agencies
that
connect
people
to,
but
also
to
find
people
before
the
emergency
intersection
with
law
enforcement,
which
usually
triggers
an
arrest
because
we
are
mandated
by
law
to
bring
in
the
dominant
aggressive
yeah.
So
it's
really
important
to
do
this
or
people
are
gonna,
get
hit,
hurt
and
arrested.
A
Know
the
one
thing
I
didn't
ask:
maybe
you
know
this,
but
I
know
that
the
numbers
are
escalating
where
it
used
to
be
in
the
old
days.
For
the
most
part,
it
was
always
the
guys
going
to
prison
going
to
jail
right
for
some
violence,
but
now
the
numbers
are
increasing
substantially
with
women
right,
and
this
is
so
it's
gotta
stop,
because
this
is
yo.
Your
da
you
probably
I.
I
D
D
I
Do
with
this
emotion
that
I
have,
if
she
was
talking
I,
remember
the
time
being
outside
playing
football,
my
dad's
thrown
with
throwing
football
around
all
the
dogs
in
the
neighborhood
and
I
remember
getting
tired
of
fatigue,
and
you
naturally
put
your
hands
on
your
hip
to
try
to
gain
your
breath,
or
maybe
he
said,
drop
your
hands
right.
But
when,
when
Danielle
talked
about
not
having
options,
it's
little
things
like
that
right
now
teach
you
you
always
have
to
be
strong.
You
never
fatigue,
you're,
never
tired!
You!
I
You
become
robotic
so
so
many
of
our
men
are
function.
They
functional
with
weight
less
than
human.
So
it's
like
this
young
boys
upset
cries,
not
an
option
right
expressing
feelings
is
not
an
option
and
I'm
not
excusing
it.
It's
just
sad
that
so
so
hold
so
this
event
and
I
just
wanna
talk
about
the
event
for
a
second.
We
again
want
to
fight
the
men
in
the
boys
to
come
out.
Hopefully
this
starts
to
hand
tools
that
we
haven't
had
you.
I
Was
I
was
angry
kid
God
just
never
was
in
a
situation
like
that
I
could
have
easily
been
in
a
situation
like
that.
I
did
not
have
the
tools
to
deal
with
my
anger.
A
lot
of
it
was
just
oppression
until
God
moved
in
my
life
is
certain
where,
where
I
felt
like
something
significant
something
drastic
happened,
but
but
so
many
of
our
boys
are
like
that
they
are
ticking
time
bombs
because
there
is
no.
I
We
have
not
given
them
a
construct
to
deal
with
their
pain
to
deal
with
their
sadness
to
deal
with
the
anger
to
deal
with
their
frustration.
The
only
thing
that's
been
acceptable
in
the
community
I
came
from
was
anger,
was
acceptable.
Rage
was
acceptable.
Violence
was
acceptable.
Vengeance
was
all
that
was
good.
I
So
it's
like.
How
can
how
can
we
release
the
pressure
valve
and
let
our
men
be
human
again,
that's
what
it
was
so
picked
up
was
so
much,
but
a
lot
of
it
is
answers
and
what
I
want
to
I
want
to
encourage
the
sisters
on
this
because
you'll
see
moms
and
auntie's
do
stuff
like
you're
not
posed
to
cry.
That's
right.
I
D
F
D
I
A
K
I
got
a
little
piece
to
share
about
that.
Okay,
we
all
can
find
ourselves
within
a
box,
and
it
has
a
lot
to
do
with
the
culture
that
we
are
in
the
multiple
cultures
we're
in
the
societies
we're
in,
and
the
box
really
limits
your
access
to
freedom
and
as
a
human.
Our
humanity
wants
us
to
feel
a
broad
range
of
feelings
right.
K
So
when
we
are
stuck
in
a
sliver,
we're
trapped
in
a
box
and
and
and
every
human
being
deserves
freedom
and
breaking
out
of
a
box
or
an
identity
that
no
longer
serves
them
well,
and
you
can
come
and
explore
this
at
this
type
of
the
training
it's
gonna
be
safe
for
men
and
women,
boys
and
girls.
To
do
that.
K
G
G
A
C
A
But
how
so
the
reason
why
I'm
bringing
that
up
is
because
you
know
most
until
I
heard.
First
of
all,
you
have
to
get
in
trouble
and
then
it's
determined
by
the
courts
or
whomever
that
oh
well,
then
maybe
we
need
to
get
these
persons
into
anger
management
class.
So
that's
after
the
violence
or
after
the
crime
has
been
committed,
and
it's
like.
No.
So
what
do
we
do
in
prevention
to
show
us
how
we're
to
handle
these
emotions
and
how
it's,
okay
and.
A
G
Like
to
say
something:
okay,
as
a
woman,
that's
in
unusual
in
a
space,
that's
usually
male-dominated.
I
have
come
face-to-face
with
some
of
these
behaviors,
and
it's
not
easy.
I
cannot
explain
how
how
grateful
I
am
to
be
a
part
of
this
space
where
we're
having
these
conversations
with
such
amazing
men
that
show
up
and
do
the
work.
The
only
way
we're
going
to
get
through
this
is
to
having
this
deep
dialogue
and.
D
G
G
You
know,
I'm
a
work
in
progress
as
well,
as
my
brother
here
just
said
earlier,
to
find
compassion
for
people
who
display
these
behaviors,
but
but
I
am
because
I
understand
that
we've
all
been
socialized
this
way,
but
I'm
like
super
grateful
for
what
we're
doing
here.
This
is
this
is
this
is
the
work
readiness.
D
G
A
Thank
you,
yes,
for
your
courage.
I
want
to
ditto
that,
for
the
courage
of
being
able
to
step
up
to
the
plate
and
and
again
the
I,
just
I-
don't
want
to
just
keep
bragging
on
karu
and
Nancy,
but
there's
just
their
persistence
and
commitment
and
compassion
to
this
work
and
for
them
to
see
and
to
know
and
then
be
able
to
ask
each
one
of
us
to
be
a
part
of
what
they're
doing
and
that's.
Why?
A
Women
and
boys
grow
up
to
be
men
and
we
were
getting
ready
to
just
change
that
dynamic
with
the
help
of
the
heavenly
father's
I
just
want
to
put
that
out
there
that
that's
who
is
helping
us,
but
it's
the
courage
for
us
to
be
able
to
deal
with
it
ourselves,
and
so
I
also
want
to
applaud
our
leadership
in
these
communities.
So
I
know
either.
One
of
you
said
something
about
that,
and
so,
as
they
may,
you
know
watch
this,
but
we
just
want
to
say
thank
you.
A
Thank
you,
city
of
Revere,
Winthrop,
Charlestown,
Chelsea
and
East
Boston,
thank
you
for
the
fire
department,
police
department
and
our
city,
mayors
and
city
managers
and
all
of
our
male
leadership.
But
we
cannot
do
this
one
without
the
other.
We
need
both
genders
girls
and
boys,
men
and
women.
So
with
that,
we
want
to
say
that
it's
time
for
us
to
close
and.
D
A
K
Absolutely
so
I
want
to
just
say
one
thing
about
this:
this
is
only
a
beginning.
This
is
gonna,
be
a
big
powerful
beginning,
but
this
isn't
the
ending
event
for
something
that's
just
gonna
go
away
so
to
be
here
is
to
be
at
the
forefront
of
a
revolution.
That's
starting
within
our
five
communities
and
it's
gonna
spread
across
Massachusetts
and
I'm,
going
to
read
right
from
the
flyer
to
do
it,
because
it's
so
well
designed
there
was
a
lot
of
effort
that
went
into
putting
this
together.
K
It
says:
wanted
strong,
courageous
men
and
boys
to
change
the
world
by
reimagining
and
promoting
healthy
masculinity
to
end
violence
against
women
and
girls.
All
community
members
are
invited
to
this
white
ribbon
event
featuring
Tony
Porter,
the
CEO
of
a
call
to
men.
This
event
will
be
Thursday,
March,
26th,
6
p.m.
to
8
p.m.
at
the
Romney
Marsh
Academy
auditorium
140,
American
Legion,
highway,
Riviere
mass
there's
going
to
be
opening
remarks
by
speaker,
Bob
DeLeo
and
others
that
are
still
pending.
A
So
you
will
be
seeing
this
flyer
on
the
local
station,
and
so
we
want
again
thank
our
guests.
This
has
been
a
wonderful
conversation
and
I
am
empowered
and
I
hope
and
energized
and
I
hope
that
each
one
of
you,
we
will
see
your
lovely
faces,
those
strong,
courageous
and
bold
men,
as
well
as
women,
mothers
and
family
members.
Wives,
bring
your
your
sons
and
your
husband's.
You
can
come
as
well,
and
so
we
want
to,
and
if
you
want
to
reach
out
to
us,
you
can
reach
out
to
me.
A
You
can
reach
out
to
Harbour
Cove
once
you
see
the
flier
and
also
I,
don't
know
how
to
say
it,
but
there's
some
heavy
weights
here-
and
this
has
been
a
wonderful
conversation
and
so
Chelsea
we're
signing
off.
I
am
dr.
Sandra
Whitley
your
host,
where
there
is
no
vision,
the
people
perish
our
dream,
your
dream,
the
community.