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From YouTube: NSCS Wellness Series EP4
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City of Chelsea, Host: Damien Cabezas, NSCS President and CEO. Guest: Yvonne CasteƱeda, NSCS Board Member
A
B
Hello,
I'm
Damian,
cabases
I'm,
the
president
and
CEO
of
North
Suffolk,
Community
Services,
formerly
North,
Suffolk,
Mental,
Health
Association,
we're
thrilled
this
morning
to
be
here
with
Yvonne
Castaneda
Yvonne
is
one
of
our
newest
board
members
and
she's,
our
director
of
Community
Affairs
at
Boston,
College
and
she's.
Also
clinician
as
well
as
an
author
of
pork
belly
tacos
with
a
side
of
anxiety
which
we
will
be
talking
about
today,
is
May
1st,
which
is
mental
health
awareness
month,
and
we
are
thrilled
to
be
talking
about
her
book
mental
health
awareness
month.
B
C
See
I
am
a
transplant
to
Boston
I
moved
here
from
Miami
almost
12
years
ago,
I
used
to
actually
used
to
work
in
the
fitness
industry
and
I
came
here
to
pursue
a
role
in
in
the
fitness
industry
and
I
got
a
master
of
social
work.
A
few
years
ago,
I
left
the
fitness
industry
and
I
have
since
then
been
a
mental
health
clinician,
working
primarily
with
a
Hispanic
population
and
I'm.
Also
now
the
director
of
community-based
initiatives,
as
you
said,
at
Boston
College.
So
that's
a
little
bit
about
me.
My
father
was
Cuban.
B
A
C
You
know
it's
interesting,
that
you
use
that
word
anchor,
because
that
is
exactly
how
I
felt
my
father
passed
away
three
years
ago
and
I
was
describing
the
experience
to
someone
and
I
said
you
know
it's
interesting,
because
you
do
kind
of
feel
like
one
anchor
has
been
pulled
up,
you're
still
kind
of
tethered,
but
something
has
changed,
and
maybe
you
don't
feel
quite
as
stable
as
you
did
before,
but
you're
still,
okay,
but
yeah.
My
parents
definitely
were
an
anchor.
I
grew
up
in
a
home
with
a
lot
of
love.
B
Yeah
and
and
thank
you
for
writing
this
book
and
and
being
vulnerable
right
and
sharing
your
story,
because
that's
that's
not
easy
and
and
I'm
I'm
curious.
What
did
your
family?
You
know
when
they,
because
you,
you
mention
a
lot
of
your
family
in
the
book?
What
was
their
reaction
because
as
a
Cuban
American,
you
know
I
know
that
you
know
there's
a
saying
in
Spanish
right:
La,
Tropa,
Associates
right!
You
know!
B
C
The
good
thing
is:
mom,
I
think
it.
You
know
it's
interesting,
that
you
say
that,
because
that
actually
was
one
of
the
reasons
why
I
wrote
the
book
that
whole
idea
that
you
know
you
don't
talk
about
your
things
outside
the
family,
the
whole
concept
of
family
bismo,
like
you,
keep
it
within
the
family.
You
don't
share
any
vulnerabilities
that
you
have
because
then
what
what
are
other
people
going
to
think
about
us
as
if
we
have
to
be
like
the
model
Latino
family,
my
mom
doesn't
read.
C
My
mom
doesn't
read
in
her
language
in
Spanish,
because
my
mom
had
no
education.
You
know
she
came
from
a
very
poor
family,
so
she
didn't
really
read
the
book
she
I
shared
with
her
the
idea
of
the
book
and
what
I
had
written
about
and
I
was
really
really
pleasantly
surprised
that
she
was
like.
Oh
you
know
it's
good
that
you're
talking
about
that.
C
You
know
that
I.
That
I
was
just
really
talking
and
I.
Think
in
in
writing.
It
I
shared
a
lot
of
it
with
her
and
asked
her
a
lot
of
questions
and
I
think
that
she
realized
the
power
of
her
being
able
to
be
vulnerable
and
to
talk
about
like
her
experiences
and
her
being,
you
know,
upset
or
sad.
So
my
I
know
that
my
brother
is
currently
reading.
It
I
think
for
my
brother,
it
probably
hits
a
little
hard
being
a
man
being
a
Latino
male,
but
my
my
hope
there
was
hey.
C
You
know
we
shared
this
and
I
wonder
if
maybe
you
you
kind
of
had
a
similar
experience,
and
maybe
that's
what's
happening
for
you
today,
but
other
than
that
I
haven't
necessarily
had
any
family
members
call
me
like
I
can't
believe,
but
at
the
end
of
the
day,
I
think
that
I
wrote
it
and
I
had
to
be
very
vulnerable.
C
I
had
to
be
very
honest
because,
as
you
know,
in
our
culture,
as
in
many
cultures,
many
immigrant
cultures,
whether
you're
Italian,
whether
you're
Indian,
whether
you're
Asian
like
I,
think
that
there
is
a
lot
of
stigma
around
mental
health.
So
I'm,
like
you,
know
what
I'm
going
to
write
about
it.
Maybe
it's
maybe
we
decrease
stigma
just
a
little
bit.
Let's.
C
B
B
And
outspoken
right,
we
we,
you
know
like
to
share
our
opinion
and
and
and
you
just
adding
to
the
conversation,
I
I,
remember.
One
of
the
parts
of
the
book
is
that
you
felt
really
pressured
when
you
were
around
your
Cuban
family,
where
they
were
asking
you
questions
around
your
weights.
A
A
C
Worlds
yeah
completely.
Definitely
you
know,
as
you
said,
Cubans
were
very
opinionated.
We
don't
even
wait
for
people
to
ask
our
opinion.
We're
just
gonna
tell
you
anyway,
and
you
know
they
mean
you
being
human
I.
Think
I,
wonder
if
you
could,
if
you,
if
this
resonates
with
you,
it's
like
a
part
of
it,
is
I
wonder
having
lived
in
a
communist
country
not
being
able
to
say
what
you
really
feel
or
what
you
really
think,
I
think
when
they
come
to
the
United
States
they're
like
oh,
it's
on
I'm.
D
C
Gonna
say
everything
but
yeah
I
mean
I
was
definitely
constantly
criticized
and
often
confused,
because
you
know
my
aunt
would
say:
did
you
eat?
You
know
you
really
need
to
eat.
You
know
we
made
all
this
food
and
then
simultaneously,
like
a
few
minutes
later
or
a
little
while
later
you're
too
fat
like
you
need
to
lose
weight,
so
it
was
very
confusing.
Certainly
as
a
kid
you
know,
11
12
years
old,
adolescence
when
we're
hyper
aware
of
our
bodies
and
it
wasn't
just
weight,
it
was
your
hair
is
a
mess.
C
Why
are
you
wearing
those
pants,
and
so
it
was
just
you
know,
constantly
and
I
think
the
message
I
got
there
was
your
worth
is
wrapped
up
in
your
appearance
like
this
is
how
we
there's
nothing
about
your
internal
space
that
we
care
about
like
we're.
Just
looking
at
what
you
look
like
and
what
your
achievements
are.
You
know
what
are
your
grades
and
I
went
to
Mexico
and
I?
Just
remember
they
were
you
know.
My
family
has
been
very
poor,
was
very
poor
for
a
very
long
time
and
I.
C
My
grandmother
was
Raising
eight
of
my
cousins
because
one
of
my
aunts
passed
away
and
left
behind
eight
orphaned,
children
and
I
just
remember
the
environment
in
which
they
lived
Amy
and
it
was
so
I
mean
it
was
very
poor.
We're
talking
about
food
poverty,
we're
talking
about
worrying
about
shelter
and
I.
Just
remember
that.
Never
never
did
they
ever
look
at
me
and
make
a
comment
about
my
weight
or
my
hair.
D
B
And
I
and
I
just
think
in
a
broader
context,
I
mean
you
know
with
appearance
is
important,
I
mean
just
in
general.
You
know
marketing.
We
see
commercials
all
the
time
and
I
think
you
know
that's
part
of
what
we're
we're
going
to
dive
into
yeah
right
that
pressure
about
about
appearance.
So
yeah,
let's
dive
in
and
you
know,
I
love
a
lot
of
a
lot.
You
have
a
lot
of
throwback
terms
to
the
Sev,
you
know
being
the
80s
yeah,
the
80s
I.
B
Have
you
know
a
lot
of
throwback
terms
that
brought
a
lot
of
great
memories.
So
you
know
that
was
really
good,
but
you
know
being
that
this
is
May
1st.
This
is
mental
health
awareness
month.
You
know
in
the
author's
note
you
write.
I
am
grateful
for
the
way
in
which
we,
as
a
society,
have
become
more
mindful
of
our
words,
more
considerate
of
others
and
more
compassionate
toward
those
suffer
mental
illness
and
addiction.
We
have
a
long
way
to
go,
but
I'm
hopeful
that
we
are
headed
in
the
right
direction.
B
C
Certainly
in
In
some
cultures
in
our
culture
specifically
I
think
a
lot
of
what
I
see
and
I
don't
know
you
might
see
this
in
our
Suffolk
too,
is
the
younger
Generations.
The
kids
who
were
born
here,
raised
here
like
myself,
but
are
now
younger,
maybe
gen,
Z
and
even
younger
than
that
they
are
wanting
to
talk
about
their
mental
health
they're
open
about
having
anxiety.
They
want
to
talk
about
depression,
they
seek
support.
I
worked
in
a
high
school
last
year.
C
One
day
a
week
and
I
was
shocked
at
how
many
youth,
boys
and
girls
wanted
to
talk
to
someone
and
I
thought
Gloria
halleluia,
you
know
things
are
changing
and
at
the
same
time,
I
think
that
there
is
a
generational
divide.
You
know
I
still
think
the
older
generations
of
Latinos
specifically-
and
maybe
this
is
true
for
other
immigrant
groups,
but
I
know
that
the
older
are
not
as
willing
and
as
open
to
embrace
mental
health
or
just
to
embrace
the
idea
that
it
would
be
okay
to
talk
to
somebody.
It
doesn't
mean
you're
crazy.
C
It
just
means.
Maybe
you
need
to
talk
to
somebody.
So
I
saw
a
lot
of
conflict
between
Mommy
and
Poppy
or
Mommy
and
like
the
teenage
daughter
that
really
wanted
some
support.
You
know
and
so
I
think
when
I,
when
I
think
about
this
book,
that
I
wrote
like
I
think
what
my
whole
hope
for
it
is
and
continues
to
be.
Is
I.
C
Don't
just
want
the
16
year
old
to
read
it
or
the
21
year
old
to
read
it
I
want
Mom
to
read
it
too,
and
obviously
that
gets
into
a
whole
other
challenge,
because
it's
in
English,
you
know.
So
if
you're
a
publisher
and
you
publish
in
Spanish,
please
contact
me,
and
so
you
know
the
book
were
translated
in
both
Generations
could
could
read
it
so,
but
I
do
think
we
have
made
progress.
I.
A
D
B
So
I
I
raised
the
question
because
I
do
worry
about
the
fact
that
when
you
hear
about
or
see
about
these
horrific
incidences
that
are
happening,
the
go-to
is
always
around
mental
illness
and
I'm
hopeful
that
we
can
raise
awareness
during
mental
health
month
to
really
differentiate
between
violence
and
mental
illness,
because
there
is
a
difference.
So
that's
why
I
raised
I
raised
the
question.
Yeah.
C
I
mean
it's
kind
of
alarming
right,
the
things
that
we
see
now
nowadays
and
I
think
also
the
regrettable
piece
about
this.
That
I
don't
know
that,
there's
enough
awareness
about
mental
health
and
specifically,
specifically
it's
like
severe
mental
illness
and
not
perhaps
not
enough
training
for
police
officers
as
well
or
for
First
Responders
to
recognize
this
person
is
in
psychosis
right
right,
like
this
person
is
experiencing
psychosis
versus.
C
B
So
one
of
the
parts
of
the
book
says
this
loose
in
invitation
to
be
super
cool
super
popular
super
awesome.
Cheerleader
was
all
the
encouragement
I
needed
to
become
fully
obsessed
with
my
physical
appearance
and
weight
loss,
powerful.
C
C
So
you
know
I
I
say
that
with
a
lot
of
compassion
and
understanding
from
my
parents,
and
so,
but
also
at
the
same
time,
that
meant
if
I
wanted
to
eat
a
donut
at
midnight.
Mommy
would
bring
me
the
donut
and
a
glass
of
milk
and
ask
me
if
I
wanted
another
one.
So
nothing
was
off
the
table.
So
I,
you
know
we
just
ate
a
lot
of
stuff
and
I.
Never
exercised.
C
I
was
a
Pianist
and
I
was
I,
was
all
about
school
and,
like
I,
don't
know
what
it
was
like
for
you,
but
Elementary
School
I
was
never
bullied
ever
I.
Think
I
grew
up
with
kids
that
were
we
were
just
really
nice
to
each
other.
C
It
was
all
about
grades
and
I
never
felt
that
my
weight
was
I.
I
didn't
have
awareness
that
it
was
not
okay
to
be
bigger,
and
even
though
I
could
hear
my
aunt
and
my
grandmother
or
my
aunt
more
specifically
like
make
comments.
I
don't
know
that
they
stuck
quite
as
much
as
when
I
got
to
when
I
entered
adolescence.
It
was
just
a
whole
other
ball
game
and
suddenly
those
comments
really
hit
hard
and
suddenly
in
the
seventh
grade
in
Middle.
C
School
is
I'm
very
aware
of
my
body,
as
is
everybody
else
and
I'm
aware
of
clicks
of
popularity,
and
it
was
just
really
scary.
It
was
a
whole
new
world
that
I
didn't
know
how
to
navigate
and
so
I
had
lost
I.
As
you
know,
in
the
book
like
I
lost,
I,
don't
know,
maybe
I
don't
know
12
pounds.
Maybe
I
lost
a
significant
amount
of
weight
right
before
the
seventh
grade,
not
because
I
went
on
a
diet,
but
because
I
just
got
sick
and
when
I
went
to
school.
C
You
look
good
like
you
lost
a
lot
of
fat
and
you
look
better
and
that
was
so
like
intoxicating
for
me
and
it
I
made
a
connection
there
right
in
my
brain
I
made
a
connection
that
this
is
a
good
thing,
because
I'm
getting
a
lot
of
this
attention
and
then
you
know,
of
course,
seventh
eighth
grade
I
gained
a
lot
of
weight
back
because
I
didn't
really
know
why
I
lost
weight
in
the
first
place,
but
by
the
time
I
reached
ninth
grade
I'm
in
the
summer
before
I
went
on
a
serious
diet.
C
I
was
like
that's
it.
I'm
gonna
be
skinny
and
I'm
going
to
be
perfect.
I'm,
tired
of
hearing
my
aunt,
my
grandmother,
my
Cuban
family,
all
I,
think
I'm
just
gonna
be
so
skinny
that
they'll
never
be
able
to
say
these
things
again
and
I'm
going
to
be
perfect,
and
so,
when
I
got
to
the
ninth
grade,
I
again
so
much
attention
so
much
attention,
I
grew
I
got
really
thin.
C
Everybody
was
like,
oh,
my
God,
and
suddenly
everybody
just
wanted
to
be
my
friend,
which
was
so
bizarre
and
I
just
became
very
popular
and
then
the
idea
of
being
a
cheerleader
was
right
up
there
with
you
know
what
we
talked
about
the
other
day.
It
was
like
straight
out
of
an
80s
movie.
You
know,
like
you
know
the
pretty
cheerleader
dating,
like
you
know,
the
football
player
who
has
a
convertible
I,
don't
know
it's
one
of
those
things
that
in
my
head,
I
thought
that
that's
the
life
I
needed
to
live.
C
You
know,
I,
didn't
I,
didn't
know
enough
to
to
recognize.
I
didn't
have
to
do
that.
I
thought.
Okay,
that's
we're
in
America!
That's
what
you
do
yeah
and
so
I
just
became
really
obsessed
with
my
appearance
super
over
the
top
and
I
went
to
extremes.
B
B
And
yeah
yeah
I.
Do
you
know
thinking
back
during
High,
School,
yeah
I,
don't
recall
a
lot
of
the
bullying?
Not
a
lot
of
bullying
was
going
on,
but
it
was.
You
know
it
was
really
important
to
be
part
of
a
group.
Oh
yeah,
especially
a
popular
group
yeah.
C
Yeah
yeah
yeah
clicks
were
everything
yeah
always
tell
people,
you
know
I
wasn't
bullied
by
any
person.
I
mean
my.
My
relatives
were
kind
of
aggressive,
but
I.
Didn't
they
weren't
bullying
me
necessarily
that's
just
their
culture,
that's
just
whatever
yeah
but
I
always
say
I,
but
I
was
still
bullied
by
myself.
I
had
like
an
internal
bully
at
play.
That
was
incessant.
You
know
that
was
constantly
bullying
me
on
the
inside.
C
B
So
another
another
part
of
the
book.
You
know
that
said
you
had
sort
of
a
moment
in
terms
of
your
feelings
and
you
talk
about
I'm,
sad
I'm.
Mad
I'm
hurt
I'm
scared,
my
emotions
manifested
as
stomachaches
as
tightness
in
my
chest
as
impulsive,
overeating
and
insomnia,
none
of
which
I
thought
mommy
would
understand.
Let
alone
know
how
to
fix
so
I
clammed
up
and
ate
my
way
through
the
pantry.
C
Yeah,
so
that
was
a
little
bit
you
know
I,
you
know
cheerleading
just
didn't
work
out
for
me
simply
because
I
realized,
thankfully
I
just
didn't
like
it
I'm
like
I,
don't
I,
don't
like
cheering
for
anybody.
I
don't
want
to
cheat
I,
don't
want
to
be
on
Sidelines
and
the
whole
environment
of
it.
I
went
to
a
predominantly
white
Heist.
There
were
some
like.
There
was
a
lot
of
Latino,
but
it
was
still
kind
of
white
like
the
culture
and
I
I,
just
for
whatever
reason
I'm
like
this
is
just
not
for
me.
C
You
know,
but
I
definitely
throughout
high
school
was
trying
to
navigate
lots
of
different
things
and
I
enrolled
in
a
karate
school
in
high
school
and
again
there
were
comments
about
like
my
body,
because
I
began
to
eat
again
and
I.
It's
not
like
I
gained
50
pounds.
I
gained
some
weight
back,
but
it
was.
It
was
just
something
that
I
was
always
aware
of.
Like
gone.
C
Was
that
innocence
of
just
being
in
a
room
and
not
thinking
about
my
thighs
I
was
always
thinking
about
like
my
body
and
whether
it
was
thin
enough
and
Hyper
focused
and
so
I
think
you
know
you
know
my
my
sensei
in
karate
was
quite
harsh,
made
comments
about
my
legs,
my
thighs
that
I
was
too
fat
and
I.
Think
what
that
comment,
or
that
piece
in
the
book
where
it
comes
from
was
I
didn't
have
the
words
Damian
like,
as
you
know,
like
growing
up
in
a
Latino
family.
C
It's
like
you,
don't
cry,
you
don't
cry
you
don't
you
know
if
you're
crying
be
quiet,
it's
okay,
just
let
it
go
and
we
just
were
never
given
space
and
so
I
didn't
have
the
words
to
articulate
how
I
was
feeling
I
didn't
even
know
how
to
identify
that.
So
what
happened
it
manifested
in
different
ways,
I
felt
it
in
my
body,
I
felt
my
stomach
aches
I
felt
my
chest.
Tighten
and
I
also
I,
think
from
anxiety
just
ate
and
then
I
eventually
just
slipped
into
a
depression
in
high
school.
D
C
Oh,
my
God
I'm
I'm
a
disgrace
to
this
Cuban
family.
It
was
so
hard
working,
I'm,
a
disgrace.
I
don't
want
to
get
out
of
bed.
I
didn't
want
to
do
anything,
so
it
was
just
really
really
high.
That's
why
again,
like
I
think
mental
health
is
so
important,
is
giving
people
not
just
the
space
but
education
like
guess
what
you
know,
how
about
we
learn
to
just
identify
what
your
emotions
are
like
what
you
feel
so
that
you
have
a
better
idea
of
what's
going
on
yeah.
B
B
So
another
part
of
the
book
I
found
interesting
was
Dr
Willoughby,
yes,
right,
Dr
Willoughby
was
an
interesting
character
in
the
book,
and
you
know
part
of
your
life,
my
and
my
chorus
friends,
my
family,
everyone
noticed
I
was
losing
weight,
but
nobody
seemed
alarmed
by
it.
Nor
did
anyone
suspect
that
I
was
binging
and
purging.
B
C
Oh
yeah,
no,
no,
no
one
had
a
clue.
I
had
that
whoa
I
had
that
Under
Wraps
I
mean
I
was
binging
and
purging
I'm
not
kidding
like
it
started
in
the
I,
think
the
middle
of
my
senior
year,
and
it
went
from
once
or
twice
a
week
to
five
times
a
day.
Very
fast
I
was
Intoxicated
by
how
easy
it
was
to
lose
weight.
For
me,
it
was
like
oh
I
found
a
solution.
I
can
eat
whatever
I
want
and
I,
don't
have
to
worry
about
gaining
weight.
C
I
just
have
to
you
know
Purge,
which
is
awful,
of
course,
but
yeah
I
I
was
losing
weight
very
fast
and
what's
interesting
is
the
same
sensei
in
my
Karate
Dojo,
who
would
grab
my
thighs
in
class
and
say
too
fat
too
fat?
You
are
too
fat,
then
you
know
it
started
to
say:
oh
you,
you
two
weeks,
you
know
two
weeks,
skinny
skinny
skinny,
again
very
confusing,
like
bro.
What
do
you
want?
Yeah
like?
What
do
you
want
for
me,
but
yeah?
C
Nobody,
everybody
just
thought
it
was
normal
because
again,
this
is
the
80s
where
it
was
very
normal.
All
the
time
in
every
space,
for
people
to
talk
about
their
weight,
yeah
and
about
food,
it
was
like
that
whole
diet,
culture.
My
teachers
would
come
in
and
talk
about
like
that,
their
diet
that
they
were
on
and
they
were
hoping
to
lose
25
pounds,
and
so
it
was
like
I
couldn't
get
away
from
it.
Everybody
talked
about
it.
It
was
a
thing.
You
know
like
this
ideal
of
being
super
thin,
like
Twiggy
thin.
B
B
C
Was
another
creepy
fellow,
but
he
was
very
creepy.
Danny
Rosenberg
was
this
nice
young?
He
was
young,
but
I
thought
it
was
ancient
because
I
was
17
and
he
was
24..
Oh
my
God,
he
was
so
old
and
he
we
we
were
always
friends.
He
I
felt
like
he
was
an
older
brother
in
many
ways.
I
never
felt
like
he
was
in
a.
He
was
never
inappropriate.
It
was
super.
C
He
just
looked
after
me
and
would
tease
me
and-
and
he
was
the
one
who
I
actually
passed
out
in
class
and
after
class.
He
waited
for
me
in
the
parking
lot
and
he
said
we
have
to
have
a
conversation
and
I
was
like
oh
and
I
said
what's
going
on
and
he
just
got
it
out
of
me.
He's
like
I
he's
like
I,
know,
I
think
I
know
what's
going
on,
but
I
need
you
to
tell
me
he's
like,
because
you've
lost
a
lot
of
weight
and
you're
passing
out.
You
don't
look
good.
C
So
why?
Don't
you
tell
me?
What's
going
on
and
so
I
did
I
opened
up
to
him.
It
was
very
uncomfortable
because
hello,
we
don't
talk
about
our
stuff
outside
of
our
family,
but
think
you
know,
Danny
God
bless
him.
You
know
he
was
very
wealthy.
He
came
from
a
very
wealthy
family
and
he
said:
okay,
here's.
What
I
think
we
should
do
he's
like
I
will
pay
for
a
therapist
and
I.
C
Want
you
to
go
see
this
family
therapist
that
we
have,
or
we
can
tell
your
family
and
I,
was
like
what
a
so
I
went
to
therapy
dragging
my
heels
into
the
ground
because
it
violated
so
much
of
what
I've
been
taught
it
violated.
Don't
talk
about
your
don't
talk
to
a
stranger
and
now
you're
going
to
see
like
you're
going
to
a
psychologist.
Oh
my
God.
What
are
people
going
to
think
I
lied.
I
wasn't
ready
for
that.
C
B
It
brings
up
a
good
point
that
you
know
again.
It's
so
grateful
that
you're
sort
of
sharing
this,
because
for
those
struggling
with
similar
or
the
same
issues,
you
know
it's
it's
a
journey.
You
know
and.
A
B
Know
it
takes
a
while
to
open
up,
be
able
to
open
up
and.
B
So
then,
you
know
sort
of
another
I
guess
Crossroads.
You
know
you
were
dealing
with
the
eating
disorder.
Then
you
started
buying
my
own
cigarettes
and
beer
and
look
forward
to
my
daily
happy
hour
because
it
was
when
I
felt
liberated
from
my
Ned
Wheels
my
nerves,
right
yeah
after
a
few
beers,
I
didn't
think
about
how
much
I
missed
home,
didn't
think
about
college
or
the
rest
of
my
life
didn't
feel
sad
or
worried
or
anxious.
Under.
The
Influence
I
was
far
more
social,
funnier,
smarter,
sweeter,
more
loving,
more
generous
I.
C
C
You
know,
like
I
mentioned
the
other
night
I
had
a
strong
calling
for
service
very
early
on
I
at
14,
when
I
didn't
want
to
continue
with
piano,
I
I
think
at
that
point,
even
though
I
wanted
to
be
a
cheerleader
and
all
that
I
think
internally,
I
knew
nah,
that's
not
the
life
for
me
and
as
I
got
older
through
High
School
I
definitely
had
a
calling
for
service
that
I
ignored
and
so
I
went
to
Mexico
with
my
family
after
I
graduated
with
no
agenda,
but
I
ended
up
going
with
I
just
want
to
stay
here.
C
I
want
to
stay
with
my
grandmother
and
my
cousins
because
they
accept
me,
as
is
they're,
not
talking
about
my
body.
They're
I
like
it
here,
I
feel
safe
and
I
stay
and
my
father
was
so
cool
he's
like
mija
stay,
but
please
don't
forget
our
promise.
You're
gonna
go
to
college,
and
so
in
that,
in
that
time,
where
I
was
left
unsupervised,
essentially
I
was
struggling
with
a
lot
I
was
struggling
with.
I
was
worried
about
the
rest
of
my
life
for
as
much
as
I
wanted
to
enjoy
being
in
Mexico.
C
I
was
still
very
much
so
doubting
a
lot
of
things
and
trying
to
you
know
what
am
I
supposed
to
do
with
my
life.
What's
my
purpose,
those
questions
about
purpose
started
for
me
really
early,
which
is.
It
was
just
a
lot
of
rumination,
a
lot
of
like
overthinking.
What
am
I
going
to
do?
What
am
I
going
to
do,
and
so
my
aunt
was
a
smoker
and
I.
Just
and
my
parents
were
smokers
and
I
just
remember
watching
my
aunt.
C
The
way
that
she
would
you
know
she
would
get
home
from
work
and
she
would
take
off
her
shoes.
She
was
like
Sophia
Loren,
like
she
was
so
glamorous
and
she
would
take
off
her
shoes
and
she
would
light
up
a
cigarette
and
take
a
drag
and
like
blow
it
out
and
look
so
relaxed
and
I.
Remember
thinking
oh
I
kind
of
want
that
and
I
just
asked
her:
hey
can
I
have
one
of
those,
and
that
was
the
end.
I
started
drinking
smoking.
It
was
normal
in
my
family.
C
It
wasn't
like
such
a
big
deal.
You
know
we
had
a
lot
of
alcoholism
in
our
family.
It
just
wasn't
like
you
know,
I
did
have
one
cousin.
That
was
like
what
are
your
parents
gonna
think,
but
I
was
like
I,
don't
care,
I'm
18.,
you
know
I'm
living
my
life
trying
to
be
Miss
Independent,
but
that
would
that
became.
C
That
became
a
pattern
right.
That
became
an
addiction
it
I.
I
wasn't
blind
to
the
fact
that
during
the
day
when
I
felt
a
lot
of
anxiety,
again
I
didn't
know,
it
was
anxiety,
I
felt
I
was
out
of
control,
I
would
binge
and
Purge,
and
that
would
calm
me
down,
but
then
thoughts
would
resurface
or
I'd
start
to
worry
or
just
feel
a
little
awkward
around.
My
family
I
just
always
felt
like
awkward
I.
C
Don't
know
that
there's
no
other
word
for
it,
and
then
it
just
became
a
routine,
but
then
I
would
drink
and
I
would
feel
better
and
I
would
open
up
and
I
would
just
be
more
myself
and
I
would
entertain
my
cousins
with
jokes
and
stories
and
it
just
became
like
a
good
time,
but
it
never
stopped.
You
know
I
made
a
very
strong
connection.
As
you
know,
the
developing
brain
makes
that
connection
between
the
substance
and
relaxation
it's
over
right
right.
You
know
and
that's
exactly
what
happened
so
I
I
left
Mexico
with
three.
B
C
C
I
was
not
taught
that
and
again,
like
I
understand
my
parents,
my
parents
were
poor,
so
what
did
they
want
for
me
and
my
brother
Safety
and
Security,
and
for
them
that
was
get
an
education
and
get
a
good
job
with
benefits
a
pension
and
and
hopefully
a
salary
where
you
don't
have
to
clock
in
and
out.
You
know
that,
for
them
was
the
definition.
The
very
definition
of
success
in
the
American
dream.
D
B
A
C
Just
all
kind
of
came
together
and
I
also
recognize,
though,
that
the
reason
I
think
it
came
together
and
I
arrived
here
is
because
I
had
moments
in
my
life,
where
I
ignored
logic
and
reason
and
I
went
with
intuition
and
knowing
and
those
moments
are
the
moments
that
really
drastically
altered
my
life
in
a
very,
very
positive
way.
I
didn't
always
see
it.
D
C
I
see
it
now,
you
know
one
example
is
just
that
you
know
interaction
I
had
with
those
gentlemen,
when
I
was
working
as
a
bartender
and
I
had
just
graduated
from
college
and
I
had
all
this
existential
angst.
What
am
I
gonna
do
and
I
also
had
this
pressure
to
keep
up
with
other
people.
You
know
I
graduated
with
a
degree
in
international
relations
and,
and
the
question
I
always
got
was.
What
are
you
gonna
do
with
that?.
D
C
How
are
you
going
to
monetize
that
degree
and
I
didn't
have
an
answer,
and
so
I
felt
very
pressured.
Everybody
was
going
to
law,
school
or
graduate
school
and
that
didn't
speak
to
me
and
all
I
wanted
to
do
was
travel.
All
I
could
think
about
all
I
envisioned
was
I,
just
want
to
travel,
I
want
to
see
the
world
I
want
to
meet
other
people,
and
so,
when
I
met
these
men
that
came
to
the
bar
and
sat
at
the
bar
and
I'd
never
seen
them
before.
C
C
So
what
are
you
gonna
do
now
and
I?
Remember
that
moment,
because
I
was
like
I
could
lie
and
be
to
to
appear
like
I
know
what
the
hell
I'm
doing,
which
I
don't
I,
could
lie
and
say
I'm
going
to
law,
school
or
graduate
school,
but
in
that
moment
I
was
like
just
go
with
the
truth.
Go
with
truth.
You
know
be
honest,
you're,
probably
never
going
to
see
them
again.
So
I
said
I,
don't
know,
I
I
really
don't
know.
I
know
that
I
want
to
travel
and
I.
C
Don't
know
what
that
looks
like
I,
don't
know
how
to
make
that
happen.
Maybe
Peace
Corps,
but
I
know
that
I
want
to
travel
and
I
want
to
help
people,
and
so
one
of
those
gentlemen
turned
out
to
be
the
VP
of
Norwegian
Cruise
Lines
and
there
I
was
on
a
ship
a
couple
weeks
later
and
I
had
I
look
back
and
there
were
moments
in
my
life
where
I
leaned
into
what
felt
right.
B
And
and
so
another
solution
or
solution
that
you
came
to
was
discovering
God
discovering
Faith,
you
met
father,
Gabriel
yep
and
you
know:
can
you
talk
a
little
about
that.
C
Oh
yeah,
again
another
moment
you
know
I
was
driving
around
I
was
in
college
my
senior
year
having
a
little
bit
of
angst
about
what
the
hell
am
I
going
to
do.
I
have
no
idea.
My
parents
couldn't
really
guide
me
because
they
didn't
it
just
didn't
know.
Okay,
so
I
was
I
spent
a
lot
of
time
alone
and
I
was
driving
around
the
city.
I
used
to
love
driving
around
the
city
of
Miami
and
just
looking
at
the
beautiful
Banyan
trees
and
I
used
to
drive
around
these
beautiful
neighborhoods
and
I.
C
Just
for
whatever
reason
it
just
brought
me
a
lot
of
calm
and
I
drove
into
this
neighborhood
that
I
I
knew
but
I
had
never
noticed
this
church
and
the
reason
I
walked
in
was
because
the
church
on
the
outside
looked
like
something
out
of
Europe.
You
know
it
was
like
Byzantine
the
architecture
it
just
for
whatever
reason
it
spoke
to
me,
and
this
is
a
Monday
and
I
parked
my
card
I'm
like
I'm,
just
gonna
go
inside.
No,
you
know,
I
was
raised,
Catholic
I,
never
lost.
C
My
connection
to
God
I
may
not
have
been
as
dedicated
to
going
to
church
every
Sunday,
but
I
always
felt
very
close
to
God
I,
never
felt
alone.
So
I
walked
into
the
church
and
mind
you
now
I'm
drinking
heavily
I,
don't
know
how
I
got
through
college.
I
was
a
drinker,
a
smoker
binging
and
purging
on
a
regular
basis.
I
was
not
in
a
good
space
mentally
emotionally
and
I
walked
into
the
church
and
I
just
kind
of
sat
there.
C
That's
it
I
didn't
have
any
John
just
sat
there,
and
then
I
did
what
I,
what
just
came
natural,
which
was
to
pray
and
I
knelt
down
to
pray
and-
and
you
know,
Here
Comes,
This
priest,
he
father
Gabriel
and
he
said
hello,
and
we
ended
up
having
a
conversation
during
which
I,
bawled
and
I
just
kind
of
opened
up
and
shared
everything.
C
C
So
in
a
way
I,
you
know
brought
me
like
closer
to
other
cultures,
and
so
father
Gabriel
became
somebody
that
I,
just
he
kind
of,
took
me
under
his
wing
in
a
way
and
I
felt
I
felt
supported,
I
felt
protected,
I
yeah,
you
know
father
Gabriel,
he
just
his
kindness
and
things.
He
said
to
me
just
kind
of
stayed
with
me
and
I
I
didn't
tell
you
this
the
other
night,
but
coincidentally,
when
I
moved
here.
C
The
first
day
that
I
was
here,
I
was
thinking
about
father,
Gabriel
I'm,
not
kidding
you
I
was
thinking
about
father,
Gabriel
and
I
got
into
a
taxi
because
Uber
didn't
exist
and
I
got
into
a
taxi
and
I.
Think
I
was
going
to
meet
a
realtor
to
look
at
an
apartment
and
the
taxi
driver.
Just
we
I
engage
him
in
conversation.
I
could
hear
the
accent
I
forget
where
he
said
no.
He
said
he
was
from
Lebanon
and
I
said.
C
Oh,
you
know,
I
used
to
go
to
a
Lebanese,
church
or
I
went
to
a
church
in
Miami.
That
was
heavily.
You
know
a
lot
of
Lebanese
and
he
goes
oh.
What
was
the
name
of
the
church
and
I
was
like?
Oh,
it's
Saint
Jude
and
he
said
oh
and
I
said
yeah.
He
goes
do
you?
Do
you
know
father
Gabriel?
Oh
goodness,
like
are
you
kidding
me?
He.
It
was
his
last
day
as
a
taxi
driver.
C
B
And
so
another
another
Another,
Part,
Of,
Your
solution
or
solution
was
exercise
and
I.
Think
you
discovered
yoga
as
well.
You
talk
about
yoga.
A
C
C
C
It
was
like
a
bottom,
not
the
only
bottom,
but
it
was
definitely
the
first
and
a
significant
one
and
I
think
I
didn't
know.
I
didn't
know
how
to
recover
from
an
eating
disorder.
I
had
no
idea
and
I
couldn't
ask
for
help,
and
so
I
did.
What
I
thought
was
logical,
which
was
maybe
I
should
try
to
be
healthy.
Like
I
had
a
vision
of
myself
as
an
athlete
and
where
that
came
from
I,
don't
know,
but
I
went
with
it.
You
know.
C
Maybe
it
was
because
I
looked
up
to
female
athletes,
I
don't
know,
but
I
started
to
run
and
then
running
became
a
little
bit
of
a
of
a
thing
that
helped
me
and
then
it
became
another
Kobe
mechanism
and
then
exercise
became
another
coping
mechanism.
It
just
became
another
thing
that
I
was
using
to
distract
myself
from
myself,
but
it
did
have
positive.
C
You
know
benefits,
but
it
was
in
that
Journey
I
think
after
I
definitely
felt
things
shift
in
my
life
in
my
mid-30s
I
yoga
again
was
one
of
those
things
that
didn't
make
sense
as
to
why
I
was
doing
it.
I
had
never
taken
a
yoga
class
in
my
life,
never
taken
a
yoga
class
and
suddenly
you
know
I'm
working
as
a
personal
trainer
at
this
point
or
I
think
I
was
a
manager.
At
this
point,
and
one
of
my
clients
brings
me
a
flyer
and
I
had
been
thinking
about
yoga
and
I.
C
C
C
So
I
went
through
yoga
teacher
training,
never
having
taken
yoga,
but
it
just
made
sense
to
me
I'm,
like
I'm
gonna.
Do
this
because
I
think
Damon
at
that
point
and
I
talk
about
this?
A
little
in
the
book
is
I
felt
like
I
when
I
started
as
a
trainer.
It
felt
very
connected
to
this
idea
that
I
wanted
to
help
other
people.
It
was
about
contribution
that
I
wanted
to
help
people
and
I
felt
being
a
trainer
and
using
everything
that
I
had
gone
through
with
an
eating
disorder
and
was
still
going
through.
C
D
C
Didn't
have
access
to
that
and
I
think
I
didn't
have
access
to
that
for
myself
for
many
years,
and
so
yoga
was
a
way
for
me
to
peel
back
an
onion
like
peel
back
a
layer
of
the
onion.
Well,
let
me
try
to
get
a
little
bit
closer
and
then
from
there
I
became
a
life
coach,
because
I
was
just
trying
to
get
closer
to
understanding.
C
Why,
like?
Why
do
we
do
the
things
that
we
do?
Why
did
I?
Do
the
things
that
I
do
I
want
to
understand?
I
want
to
understand
myself
better
so
that
I
can
understand
my
clients
better,
so
that
I
can
help
them
right,
and
so
that's
kind
of
like
where
why
I
went
to
yoga.
But
it
was
tremendous
I
love,
yoga.
B
Well
so
it's
you
know,
the
takeaway
from
the
book
for
me
was
that
it's
a
it's
a
it's
a
process
and
it's
a
journey
and
it
takes
time
and
relapse,
is
something
that
is
natural
in
this
process.
Absolutely
you
know
so,
there's
a
little
bit.
You
know
back
and
forth
until
you,
you
know,
are
able
to
to
get
to
La
solutions
to
get
to
the
solution,
and
every
person's
soul
is
Young
is
different.
B
And
you
know-
and
there
is
no
timeline
right-
there's
no
like
timeline,
it's
all
very
in
the
individualized
and
personal
and
yeah.
So
you
know
I
just
want
to
thank
you
again,
for
you
know,
sharing
this
story.
It's
it's
amazing
for
those
again
that
want
to
read
more.
It's
pork
belly
tacos
with
a
side
of
anxiety,
I've
enjoyed
the
conversation
we
could.
We
could
be
here
for
hours
because
it's
such
a
you
know
interesting
topic.
That
I
think
affects
all
families.
B
B
Those
that
want
more
information,
you
can
certainly
visit
our
website
www.northsuffolk.org
for
those
that
need
help
for
those
that
need
more
information
to
get
help.
We're
certainly
there
to
to
to
help
you
in
any
way
we
can
and
Kelly
Knox
will
be
returning
to
her
series
or
Wellness
series,
and
it's
been
a
real
pleasure
Yvonne
and
we're
so
grateful
that
you're
serving
on
our
board,
and
we
can
learn
more
from
you.
Thank.