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From YouTube: From City Hall - Ward 2 - January 2014
Description
Oklahoma City Ward 2 Councilman Ed Shadid talks with Shannon Davis, Director of Development, about Family Builders. More at http://familybuildersok.org.
A
B
Sure
sure
I've
served
family
builders
for
about
two
years:
I'm
the
director
of
development
and
community
outreach.
We
have
been
around
as
an
organization
since
1976
we
were
originally
founded
as
parents,
Assistance
Center
and
changed
our
name
last
year
to
more
accurately
reflect
what
we
do.
Our
mission
is
pretty
simple
sounds
simple,
although
it's
not
our
mission
is
to
strengthen
families,
to
prevent
child
abuse,
neglect
and
family
violence,
and
we
do
that
by
training
parents
and
giving
people
tools
that
they
need
for
more
healthy
relationships.
Can.
A
B
Do
we
do
and
towards
women?
This
is
not
a
great
state
to
live
in
if
you're,
a
woman
or
a
child.
The
statistics
are
pretty
grim.
We
know
based
on
DHS
statistics
from
2012
that
every
day
in
Oklahoma
26
children
are
confirmed
as
victims
of
some
form
of
abuse,
and
you
have
probably
heard
that
recently
we
were
ranked
third
in
the
nation
for
the
number
of
women
that
are
killed
by
a
domestic
partner.
Those
aren't
good
statistics.
B
A
B
Typically,
a
woman
is
in
most
danger
when
she's
trying
to
leave
or
has
just
left.
That
is
one
reason
that
what
we
do,
while
there
are
great
organizations
that
focus
on
the
victims
and
provide
victim
services
and
advocate
for
those
victims
and
we
partner
with
those
organization.
What
we
do
is
focus
on
the
root
of
the
the
abuse
we
actually
focus
on
the
abuser
themselves.
We
don't
believe
that
you
can
stop
abuse
until
you
get
at
the
root
of
it.
It's
just
like
a
weed.
B
You
pull
the
weed
out,
but
don't
get
the
route
that
it's
going
to
happen
again,
it's
going
to
spring
up
again,
and
so
we
work
with
the
attorney
general's
office
in
providing
a
certified
52-week
batterers
intervention
program
that
teaches
perpetrators
of
domestic
violence,
a
different
way
of
thinking
in
a
different
way
of
interacting
in
their
relationships.
It's
an
intensive
program
and
has
been
likened
to
programs
like
AAA
or
na
that
are
long-term
people
have
to
take
ownership
of
what
they're
dealing
with
and
changed
their
lives
so
that
their
families
lives
are
changed.
So.
B
B
After
finishing
the
program
with
us,
which
took
over
a
year,
he
goes
home
and
his
kids
jump
all
over
him
and
love
on
him,
and
he
looked
our
program
director
in
the
eyes
and
said
you
all
made
me
the
man
that
I
want
my
son
to
be
that's
what
family
builders
is
about.
That's
why
we
changed
our
name.
We
are
really
about
building
and
rebuilding
those
relationships
that
have
been
broken
and
torn
apart
by
abuse
and
violence
and
creating
a
whole
family.
Again,
it's.
B
Very
often
they
are,
and
those
are
things
that
our
clients
have
to
deal
with
before
they
can
start
dealing
with
their
parenting
or
with
their
relationship
issues.
They
have
to
take
care
of
addictions.
First,
someone
who
is
using
can't
make
good
choices,
can't
make
life-changing
decisions
about
how
they're
going
to
think
about
other
people.
They
have
to
really
work
on
those
issues
very
often
to
what
we
see
is
many
of
our
clients
come
to
us
and
are
repeating
a
cycle
of
abuse
that
they
experienced
in
their
growing
up
years.
B
That
is
often
part
of
the
reason
for
their
substance
abuse
if
they
have
a
substance
abuse
issue,
so
they
may
be
grew
up
in
a
home
where
they
watched
violence,
happen
or
violence
happened
to
them.
They're
repeating
that
cycle,
our
job
is
to
stop
that
cycle,
and
so
we
work
together
with
other
agencies
with
other
organizations,
to
help
make
sure
those
families
and
those
clients
get
all
the
help
that
they
need
in
order
to
stop
that
cycle
for
their
families
and
their
children.
Great.
A
B
B
It's
one
in
four
girls
and
one
in
six
boys
will
be
sexually
abused
by
the
time
they're
18
and
as
parents.
We
often
start
worrying
when
we
take
our
kids
to
the
park
or
we
take
them
to
the
movies
where
we're
struggling
with.
Oh,
my
goodness,
what?
If
a
stranger,
comes
and
snatches
my
kid?
The
truth
is
ninety
percent
of
the
time
sexual
abuse
happens
with
someone
that
the
child
in
the
family
no
interest.
It's
not
usually
that
stranger
on
the
street
or
in
the
dark
somewhere,
it's
a
teacher,
a
coach,
a
family
member.
B
B
Child
typically,
the
statistics
tell
us
that
only
about
one
in
ten
children
will
tell
about
abuse
and
that's
particularly
true
with
sexual
abuse,
because
there's
so
much
shame
and
often
children
don't
understand
what
has
happened
to
them.
They
don't
know
it's
abuse
or
an
abuser
is
telling
them
don't
tell
or
something
awful
will
happen
to
you
into
your
family.
B
B
Do
you
commit
yeah?
We
haven't
talked
about
it
as
a
society
as
a
community,
every
time
I
go
somewhere
and
speak
and
talk
about
these
issues.
I
always
have
at
least
one
person
who
comes
up
to
me
and
says:
okay,
I
was
one
of
that.
Ninety
percent,
who
doesn't
tell
that
happened
to
me,
that
was
my
family
was
my
uncle.
B
It
was
my
coach,
it
was
my
youth
minister,
and
we
have
to
be
a
community
in
a
society
where
we're
able
to
talk
about
these
difficult
things
where
we're
able
to
prepare
our
children
not
to
scare
them,
but
to
prepare
them
for
making
sure
that
they
know
how
to
keep
themselves
safe
and
that
we're
not
putting
them
in
situations
where
they
can't
do
that.
We
just
have
to
be
able
to
talk
about
it.
There
is
not
shame,
there's
not
shame
for
those
victims,
and
so
we
need
to
be
willing
to
stand
up
and
say
so.
B
A
Seems
like
it
has
a
snowball
effect
as
people
come
out
and
talk
about
it
that
this
the
shame
and
stigma
lose
their
power
correct.
So
the
more
we
talk
about
it,
the
more
everyone
will
feel
comfortable
coming
out
talking
about
it,
and
maybe
we
can
push
the
conversation
and
find
more
solutions.
Absolutely.
B
And
and
as
an
organization,
we
have
dedicated
some
significant
resources
to
providing
some
trainings
that
we
would
be
happy
to
come
and
do
in
the
community
will
go
anywhere.
Anybody
was
willing
to
invite
us
to
talk
about
this
and
to
help
parents
understand
what
their
role
is
and
making
sure
their
children
stay
safe.
B
The
law
is
that
if
any
person
who
suspects
that
abuse
is
happening
has
to
report
it-
and
the
truth
is
only
about
thirty
percent
of
mandated
reporters
truly
report,
we
see
that
all
the
time
somebody
that
says-
oh
yeah
I
knew
something
was
going
on,
but
I
wasn't
sure
I
just
didn't
want
to.
You
know
didn't
want
to
stick
my
nose
where
it
didn't
belong,
and
we
all
have
to
be
about
the
business
of
protecting
children.
A
B
A
A
B
All
experienced
that,
and
so
we
want
to
be
an
organization
that
parents
are
able
and
willing
to
turn
to
when
they
need
help.
Sometimes
it's
just
needing
somebody
to
say
you
know
what
on
the
right
track,
you're
doing.
Okay,
sometimes
you
need
somebody
to
say
you
know
what
you're
expecting,
if
that
twelve-year-old
probably
isn't
appropriate.
Let's,
let's
expect
something
a
little
different,
but
whatever
it
takes.
A
B
A
B
What
we
see
with
with
divorcing
families-
it's
very
often
the
parents,
even
unknowingly,
sort
of
put
the
child
or
the
children
in
the
middle,
and
so
we
have
recently
started
offering
a
co-parenting
through
divorce
class
that
meets
for
four
hours
on
a
saturday,
and
you
can
actually
go
online
and
register
for
that
through
our
website.
Is
that.
B
B
Absolutely
and
you
know,
children
are
sort
of
self-centered
developmentally
by
nature
and
they
feel
like
the
world,
revolves
around
them.
So
when
something
happens,
that's
detrimental
in
their
lives,
whether
it's
divorce
death,
anything
they
really
feel
like
they
caused
it.
It's
it's
their
fault
in
some
way,
and
so
one
of
the
biggest
things
that
parents
can
do
is
talk
to
those
children
and
understand
that
that
child
is
taking
on
a
whole
lot
of
responsibility
for
a
situation
that
isn't
their
fault
right.