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From YouTube: WFH: Parenting Round Table with GitLab's all-remote team (working and parenting from home)
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A handful of GitLabers discuss how they manager, struggle, and succeed at parenting while working from home.
Learn more about GitLab's guide to remote work: http://allremote.info/
A
All
right
recording
is
going
hi
everybody.
My
name
is
JD
and
I'm
here
with
some
fellow
gitlab
erse
and
fellow
parents.
Today,
we're
gonna
just
be
discussing
not
only
working
remotely
and
our
experiences
working
remotely,
but
more
specifically,
our
experiences
working
remotely
now
that
our
families
and
our
children
are
home
with
us.
Everyone
on
today's
call.
A
It
works
for
Gil
AB,
which
is
a
fully
remote
fully
distributed
team
of
more
than
1200
employees,
spread
across
65
different
countries,
we're
kind
of
go
around
and
do
a
little
introduction.
My
name
is
JD
I
am
a
sorcerer
on
the
recruiting
team.
Here,
I
get
lab
and
I
have
a
two
two
and
a
half
year
old
son
named
Wilder
who's
been
at
home
with
us
for
about
two
and
a
half
years
now.
B
Hi,
my
name
is
Cristina
QP.
I
am
a
senior
education
program
manager
over
on
the
community
relations
team
and
I've,
been
at
lab
since
coming
up
on
six
months
here
and
I
have
worked
remotely
for
the
last
two
years,
and
I
have
two
children
who
are
now
home
full-time
with
me,
obviously,
due
to
the
current
situation,
and
they
are
nine
and
twelve
and
then
my
husband
is
also
home
now
full-time
as
well.
D
A
13
years
remote,
that's
awesome.
That
is
a
lot
of
experience.
I
felt
really
confident
about
my
three
years
of
remote
experience,
so
I
guess
from
here.
What
we'll
do
is
what
kind
of
stuff
we'll
talk
about
some
stressors
now
some
things
that
we're
having
to
adapt
to
again
I
mentioned
like
before
we
got
started
hate
to
use
the
term
dealing
with,
but
for
lack
of
better
terms.
Again,
let's
try
not
to
think
of
it
as
like,
necessarily
negative,
but
just
but
that's
kind
of
the
situation
we're
in.
A
A
A
He
wants
to
be
involved
with
everything
help
with
everything,
and
my
biggest
issue
currently
is
removing
myself
from
work,
especially
again,
since
we
all
work
at
Gila,
Lab,
we're
all
at
home
anyway,
but
finding
space
for
myself
to
be
fully
removed
from
the
household
and
also
come
back
to
it
when
it's
time,
and
so
that
is
what
we're
kind
of
in
the
process
of
figuring
out
and
feel
free
to
chime
in
at
any
time.
Anyone
has
anything.
D
Oh
I'll,
chime
in
so
I
almost
feel
like
I,
am
sort
of
the
opposite.
I
feel
like
I'm
being
pulled
away
from
my
work.
More
than
I
would
like,
especially
because
my
husband
is
also
now
home
and
we're
both
very
passionate
on
our
jobs,
with
both
love.
What
we
do
I'm
very
fortunate
in
that
you
know
get
lab,
is
all
remote
and
we've
been
set
up
from
day
one
to
support
all
remote
and
it's
super
flexible
friends,
family
firsts.
D
All
of
that,
that
being
said,
doesn't
necessarily
mean
that
I
always
want
to
take
advantage
of
that
or
nor
should
I
I.
Don't
you
know,
I've
got
my
team
to
worry
about,
and
I've
got
things
that
have
deadlines,
I,
think
the
struggle
is,
it's
probably
not
so
much
our
kids.
Honestly,
it's
just
figuring
out
schedules
between
my
husband
and
I.
He
works
for
a
community
college
and
their
office
of
disability
services,
so
this
is
really
stressful
for
him
too.
D
It's
a
really
crucial
moment
for
him
in
his
position,
because
he's
trying
to
figure
out
how
to
provide
services
for
people
who
have
different
disabilities.
Some
people
might
not
be
able
to
simplify,
might
not
be
able
to
use
a
computer
or
any
kind
of
reason
that
they
might
not
be
able
to
do
like
online
classes,
and
things
like
that,
so
you
know
I
feel,
like
he's
been
constantly
running
out
on
with
his
head
cut
off
like
a
chicken.
D
So
that's
that's
been
our
thing.
We
go
through
waves
like
up
and
down.
Occasionally
it
feels
like
we've
got
it
and
we,
you
know
we're
all
a
team
and
working
through
it,
and
then
there
are
times
where
it's
like
just
everything
just
blows
up
and
looks
like
my
back
so
yeah.
We
kind
of
take
it
week
week
by
week.
At
this
point.
C
Yeah,
it's
gonna
say
from
the
job
itself:
didn't
change
too
much.
It's
all
the
outside
world
pressure
on
the
job
that
it
was
forming
cracks.
The
number
of
interrupts
for
me
feels
like
a
doubled
or
tripled
because
of
the
at
home
interrupts.
But
you
know
what
the
kids
were
at
school.
I
was
used
to
the
whole
they're
gonna.
C
Could
have
some
of
that
time
to
focus
on
the
work
things
and
that's
just
gone.
So
that's
been
the
struggle
of
I
agree
with
Jennifer
and,
like
there's,
been
a
lot
of
adaptation
of
like
constantly
changing
it
like
okay.
This
week
we
got
it
next
week
is
just
total
chaos.
Cuz
some
kids
got
needs
with
homework
that
I
need
to
go
sit
down
with
them
for
an
hour
or
something
and
my
wife
does,
and
that
means
I
gotta
go
help
with
something
else
that
wasn't
getting
done.
So
that's
that's
been
the
just
constant.
C
B
I
would
agree
for
me
too:
I
had
the
the
six
and
a
half
hours
from
when
the
littlest
one
we
got
on
the
bus
to
the
oldest
one
came
home,
and
that
was
just
really
great
core
focus
time
that
now
has
gone
away
so
I
think
that's
the
biggest.
The
biggest
challenge,
obviously,
is
the
distraction
of
them
being
in
the
house,
and
we
can
some
things
have
really
worked
tonight,
we'll
talk
about
that
in
the
next
section,
but
I
think
for
me,
it's
being
consistent.
B
It's
setting
the
ground
rules
and
staying
consistent
is
puts
an
extra
thing
that
I
have
to
keep
on
my
plate,
but
the
more
consistent
you
are,
the
better
off
I
think
everyone
is
so
for
me.
It's
studying
the
rules
and
stay
in
sticking
to
them
as
it's
challenging.
You
have
to
stay
in
your
toes.
You
know
to
make
everything
kind
of
safe
stay
in
the
lane
in
the
right
lane.
E
Yep
same
and
schedule
is
key,
I
mean
and
when
you
talk
about
staying
with
them,
the
rules
to
Christina
I
think
there's
a
for
me
now
that
they're
home
they're,
so
close
so
sometimes
leaving
my
office
means
entering
into
you
know.
Even
when
it's
it's
my
time.
My
work
time,
because
my
husband
and
I
are
are
doing
shifts,
which
is
another
something
I'd
recommend
but
leaving
my
office
means
I'm
putting
myself
into
the
mix.
They
see
me
they're
still,
you
know
they're
old
enough,
but
young
enough
to
still
want
to
spend
time
with
me.
A
So
it
sounds
like
across
the
board
everyone's
doing,
with
kind
of
not
necessarily
just
scheduling
conflicts,
but
a
lot
of
interruptions
and
trying
to
find
balance
between
you
know
managing
those
interruptions
or
trying
to
not
only
navigate
them,
but
maybe
rid
that
the
interruptions
like
via
schedule
and
Heather
and
Kristina
both
mentioned
kind
of
scheduling,
parenting
sessions,
I,
guess
it's
how
we'd
say
or
like
a
block
schedule.
The
past
I
don't
mention.
My
wife
has
been
remote
for
like
eight
years
now,
but
once
I
switch
to
being
remote,
the
in
wild
joined
the
crew.
A
What
we
found
was
that
block
schedule
really
really
did
help.
One
thing
that
we
do-
and
this
will
lead
us
in
the
next
section-
may
be
how
each
of
us
can
go
through
and
talk
about
how
we've
managed
these
interruptions
or
how
we
haven't
even
and
shared
like
we're
still
struggling
with
it.
I
know.
Jenn.
You
mentioned
that
it's
like
a
weekly
thing,
I
kind
of
ups
and
downs
adds
inflows
and
that's
the
same.
I
think
across
the
board
for
all
of
us
and
in,
if
not
weekly,
daily
I,
know
my
wife
and
I.
A
Something
that's
really
helped,
and
it's
really
taken
a
lot
of
effort
is
every
night,
even
though
we
don't
want
to
we
open
up
our
computers.
We
sync
our
calendars,
we're
like
hey.
What
meetings
do
you
have
tomorrow?
That
are
a
must.
How
much
time
do
you
need
before
and
after
to
work
so
I
know?
No
one
wants
to
go
from
like
zero
to
hop
on
and
lead
a
meeting.
So
usually
like
my
wife
and
I
both
have
meetings.
A
We
give
each
other
a
half
hour
to
an
hour
before
that
meeting
either
get
other
work
done
and
prepare
for
that
meeting
or
just
to
you
know
clear
their
head
and
get
ready.
You
know,
for
that
day,
we've
tend
to
find
that
working
in
90-minute
to
to
our
chunks
and
then
rotating
back
and
forth
with
our
son
really
does
help
and
that's
kind
of
been
our
win
again.
It's
a
daily
struggle.
We
have
fires
that
pop
up
I'm
sure
everyone
here,
especially
Jen.
Your
background
right
now
reminds
like
this.
E
Will
add
on
to
the
communication
and
say
you
know,
grace
and
understanding
with
each
other,
because
it
can
be
very
stressful
and
acknowledging
that
we're
all
just
trying
to
do
something
that
I'll
say
currently
is.
Is
it's
very
difficult
so
understanding
that
that
some
of
the
issues
may
just
come
from
from
us
being
stressed
out?
But
here
we
we
do
try
to
do.
We
had
started
trying
to
do
one-hour
shifts
and
in
the
Parenthood
thread
our
parenthood
slack,
Channel
I
think
somebody
was
talking
about
two-hour
chunks
that
they
had
and
I
thought.
E
Well,
you
know
what,
because
I
really
feel
like
I'm
coming
in
and
out
and
really
being
disrupted
and
not
able
to
get
anything
done
and
moving
to
two-hour
shifts
where
I
I
sit
down
for
two
hours
and
work
and
I
got
noise.
Cancelling
headphones,
which
I
would
say,
are
really
key
because
then
I'm
not
hearing
and
being
distracted
and
feeling
like
I
need
to
tend
to
something
that
my
husband
is
more
than
capable
of
handling.
B
Yeah
I
would
second,
the
noise
canceling
headphones.
Heather
I
saw
your
posts
on
that
and
I
just
said:
okay,
my
husband
had
some
and
I
need
to
get
my
own,
but
they've
been
because
I'm
right
next
to
the
kitchen
and
the
where
I
am
I
can
hear
everything,
and
so
it
was
a
lot
of.
It
was
just
me
distracting
myself
listening
to
them
fighting
or
something
so
I
think
the
headphones
just
really
really
helped
I'm
not
really
doing
a
schedule
of
black
time
with
my
kids
are
pretty
self-sufficient.
B
Nine
and
you
know
twelve,
they
they
for
the
most
part.
Can
you
know
be
through?
You
know
they
needle
maybe
the
little
one
needs
a
little
bit
of
help
in
the
morning
getting
on
that
her
L&S
and
seeing
what
she
has
to
do.
But
we
just
set
clear
expectations
that
they
cannot
come
in
here
and
interrupt
me
and
if
they
do
come
in
here
and
interrupt
me,
then
there's
a
consequence
for
that
and
we've
chosen
to
take
away.
B
But
it's
working
really
well
because
they,
you
know
they
know
they
can't
come
in
and
interrupt
and
that
Elise
allows
me
to
focus
and
I
go
out
frequently
to
get
water
or
coffee,
and
so,
if
they
have
a
question,
if
they
need
something,
they
just
have
to
wait
till
I
come
out
and
then
they
just
can
write
a
list
if
they
need
to
or
whatever
the
other
thing
that's
been.
Just
really
helpful
is
you
know
I
make
a
morning
list
of
things
that
they
need
to
do
so
they
need
to
be
outside
for
an
hour.
B
C
There
I
think
the
other
thing
that
I'd
note,
because
a
lot
of
people
it
sounds
like
all
five
of
us
have
been
remote
for
at
least
some
period
of
time,
but
the
other
thing
that
you're,
noting
Cristina
and
that's
actually
a
poll
cuz
I,
see
it
with
different
people,
is
what's
the
space
that
you
have
for
work?
Do
you
manage
to
have
an
office?
C
Because
if
you
can
have
an
office
with
the
kids,
then
that
creates
that
space
of
I'm
in
work
versus
I'm
not
and
when
I
step
out,
because
yeah
I'm
the
same
when
I
have
my
own
office
space.
So
when
I
step
out
I
can
be
part
of
the
family,
but
when
I'm
in
the
office
then
I
can
close
the
door
or
I
can
write
something
on
the
window
with
a
whiteboard
marker.
C
One
of
the
thing
that's
been
key
was
just
I
was
already
reasonably
good
about
putting
things
on
the
calendar
for
like
working
out
times
and
the
things
like
that
I
had
to
start
putting
in
times
other
than
workout
exercise
times.
For
me,
like
family
time,
like
lunch,
has
just
blocked
for
going
to
help
with
lunch,
eat
it
and
clean
it
up.
B
D
D
He
just
started
talking
about
how
much
he
missed
school
and
his
friends
Nina's
his
teacher,
and
it
was
just
like
so
it's
like
you
know
he
does
these
things
where
normally
he
probably
would
get
like
a
timeout
or
something.
But
for
this
it's
like
you
just
can't
get
that
mad
at
him.
You
know
you
just
you
have
to
understand
that
we're
all
we're
all
struggling.
D
Just
people
saying,
like
you
know
what
like,
if
it's
a
battle
between
like
sanity
and
getting
education
done,
just
like
just
choose
the
sanity
part
like
and
so
I
think
we're
starting
to
kind
of
drift.
That
way
more,
you
know,
I
mean
there's
a
lot
of
guilt
going
with
going
that
way,
because
I
do
worry,
like
you
know,
are
we
gonna
make
them
way
behind
in
school
or
whatever,
but
the
reality
is
I
mean
it's
a
first
grader
in
a
preschooler
like
I,
think
they're
gonna
be
okay.
It's
probably.
A
I
think
everyone
hit
everything
like
right
on
head,
I
mean
sounds
like
everyone
struggles,
just
not
even
just
within
this,
and
we
have
here.
Gil
up,
we
have
the
impaired
chat
seems
all
to
be
trending
on
the
same
wave,
but
just
globally,
two
people
worried,
like
Jen,
said
you
know.
Where's
my
child
gonna
fall
behind.
A
That's
super
strange.
Whether
they're
in
school
or
not,
I,
think
they're,
starting
to
sense
that
hey
we're
not
going
to
the
parks,
we're
not
going
to
the
coffee
shops,
we're
not
going
to
the
restaurants,
we're
not
going
out
on
walks
like
in
the
neighborhood
like
as
much
as
like
we
used
to
or
things
of
that
nature,
which
kind
of
leads
us
in
kind
of
a
sharp
turn
into
that
positive
realm
of
leading
with
empathy,
grace
and
kind
of
choosing
sanity,
maybe
really
quickly
to
close
it
out.
A
We
can
all
kind
of
go
around
and
just
nail
down
like
something
positive.
We've
taken
from
this
I
can
kind
of
start
with
it.
For
me,
it's
been
being
remote
and
having
my
child
at
home
with
me,
has
been
amazing,
because
I've
had
been
able
to
have
every
single
meal
every
single
day
in
home
with
my
child,
and
that's
something
coming
from
a
single
mother
that
I
didn't
get
a
half,
and
so
it's
been
extremely
important
to
me
to
sit
down.
We
prepped
food.
A
D
I'll
say
for
me:
I
the
I've
been
so
amazed
at
how
creative
my
kids
are.
It's
a
bet,
something
I,
probably
wouldn't
have
really
noticed.
Like
I
mean
yeah,
you
get
all
the
art
stuff
coming
home
from
school,
but
to
watch
them
just
like
freehand,
drawing
and
stuff
and
or
like
the
way
that
they
their
minds
work
I'm,
getting
a
much
better
look
into
that
and
it's
so
fun
and
finding
other
ways
to
learn
that
isn't
necessarily
like
structured
schoolwork
has
been
awesome.
E
C
A
Awesome
sounds
like
everyone
again
with
the
struggles
we
have.
There
are
some
great
positive
outcomes
that
are
coming
out
of
this
and
will
continue
to
come
out
of
this
I
think
is
we
start
to
lean
more
on,
especially
a
lab.
We
have
all
these
resources
to
lean
on
each
other,
reach
out
to
each
other
wins
stressors.
How
we're
adopting
things
like
that
I
think
that
globally,
as
parents
and
now
having
our
children,
our
families
at
home
I
think
that
something
like
this
is
really
helpful.
And
again
this
is
a
form
of
communication.
A
I
think
that
when
it
all
comes
down
to
it,
communicating
whether
it
be
via
hug
or
whether
it
be
communicating
your
schedule,
whatever
it
is,
I
think
is-
is
the
takeaway
and
how
we'll
kind
of
get
through
this
and
learn
a
lot
about
not
only
ourselves,
but
our
families
and
children
as
well
and
I
just
want
to
thank
everyone
for
their
time
today
and
well.
At
Gila,
ball
see
you
on
the
next
soom
meeting
or
in
the
in
parenthood,
chat.
Okay,.