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A
As
I
experienced
some
technical
difficulties-
and
I
guess.
A
A
Yeah
I've
been
kind
of
scrambling
to
get
this
presentation,
and
these
slides
together.
A
Uncertain
in
my
ability
to
present
nonviolent
communication.
B
Yeah,
some
of
them
and
some
of
us
are
in
the
book
club,
but
we
also
extended
the
potential
the
invitation
to
join
us.
This
thursday.
A
Awesome
well
yeah,
so
I
guess
I'll
just
start
from
the
beginning
and
try
to
and
or
even
if,
people
have
any
specific,
think,
questions
or
kind
of
problem
areas
that
they
wanna
relate.
Then
I'd
be
happy
to
hear
that
also.
A
Just
just
to
begin,
I
will
say
that
I'm
not
like
any
expert
in
the
practice
of
non-violent
communication,
and
but
I
have
I've
seen
how
becoming
more
fluent
in
these
teachings
will
help
me
to
meet
my
need
to
connect
with
the
people
in
my
life
more
compassionately.
A
So
so
I
I
have
studied
this
material
for
pretty
pretty
thoroughly
over
the
past
couple
years,
but
that
intellectual
understanding
has,
I
mean
it's
helped
me
to
keep
in
mind
and
other
people's
perspectives
a
little
easier,
but
it's
not
quite
the
same
as
getting
practice
in
so
hopefully
we
can,
if
not
in
the
session
as
a
as
a
group,
move
from
the
understanding
into
practice.
A
A
We
always
want
our
giving
to
be
done
willingly
not
out
of
guilt,
shame,
fear
of
punishment
or
by
trying
to
by
love
submitting
to
people's
expectations.
A
So
I
don't
know
about
you
all,
but
for
me
that's
pretty.
That's
like
pretty
mind-blowing
already,
because
that's
like
the
basis
of
most
of
my
actions
in
life
have
been.
You
know,
motivated
in
these
ways,
whether
through
schooling
or
even
just
non-formally,
through
social
settings,
that
it
just
kind
of.
A
So
if
you
don't
know
about
marshall
rosenberg,
basically
he
got
into
the
study
of
psychology
to
try
to
determine
what
happens
to
people
so
that
they
enjoy
suffering
and
what
happens
people
so
that
they
enjoy
relating
compassionately
and
enjoying
contributing
to
the
well-being
of
others.
A
A
A
A
A
Maybe
maybe
I
can
just
take
a
pause
from
from
reading
this
and
get
some
response
from
people
listening
if
they
can
connect
with
what
marshall
finds
to
be
the
source
of
violence?
Does
that
resonate
with
with
us
here?
Does
it
sound
like
familiar.
C
I
was
just
putting
this
one
into
the
gravity
survey
about
what's
most
difficult
to
that
I
find
what's
very
difficult
with
strife
in
a
community
and
with
the
kind
of
violence
of
speech
or
enjoying
promoting
someone
else's
suffering.
I
think
specifically
in
crypto
cultures,
but
also
in
the
internet.
It's
a
very
meme,
friendly
type
of
culture
and
dog
piling
can
be
such
an
easy
part
of
it,
because
it's
kind
of
fun
almost
for
people
to
identify.
C
You
know
a
mistake
or
something
silly
imagine
thinking
this
is
a
good
track
or
something
like
that
and
so
quickly
it
can
spiral
into
this.
Oh
now,
you're
making
fun
of
someone
but
you're
just
having
fun
as
well.
So
I
think
that
I
understand
what
you
mean
by
the
marshall
rosenberg
or
I
can
see
the
correlations
between
the
desire
to
add
to
other
people
suffering,
because
I
don't
know-
maybe
perhaps
it's
already
kind
of
been
gamified
or
something
like
that.
It's
very
easy
to
do.
A
Yeah
absolutely
absolutely,
and
I
think
what
he's
you
know,
what
he's
suggesting
is
that
that's
not
you
know,
that's
not
an
accident
or
a
chance
that
it
comes
to
be
that
way.
Does
anybody
else
have
any
any
thoughts
or
reflections
on
what
marshall
sees
as
the
source
of
violence.
D
I
have
something
that
came
up
when
I
looked
at
this.
This
slide
in
particular,
made
me
think
about
a
conversation
I
had
with
my
daughter
this
weekend.
We've
been
talking
about
power
dynamics,
social
ones,
you
know
status
and
how
I
just
wanted.
A
D
A
D
People
who
kind
of
have
a
need
to
be
in
control
and
those
people
can
sometimes
be
quite
difficult
people.
I
was
wondering
what
the
suggestion
would
be
in
in
that
type
of
situation,
all
right
innovator.
I
think
you
interrupted
eloises.
A
You
can
continue
and
we
can.
We
can
come
back
to
that
question
momentarily.
D
I
just
want
to
clarify
that
sometimes
that
happens
on
discord
that
just
certain
people
can't
hear
certain
people.
So
so
maybe
innovator
wasn't
listening
to
you,
but
please
go
ahead.
Listen!
Okay!
Thank
you!
Yeah
just
talking
about
power
dynamics
and
how,
because
they
are
real,
like
people
do
things
to
maintain
power
dynamics.
D
So
in
order
for
there
to
be
popular
people,
there
have
to
be
unpopular
people,
so
they
have
to
like,
create
these
scenarios
to
validate
their
experiences,
and
that's
just
like
bringing
a
lot
up
when
I
look
at
this
and
I
think
about
language
and
how
we
use
it,
and
the
comment
before
me
with
just
the
internet
and
the
dog
piling
and
yeah
how
people
feel
good
when
they
get
validated-
and
I
just
see
that
happen
so
much
on
the
internet,
people
picking
on
somebody
or
shaming
them
for
making
a
mistake
as
opposed
to
like
supporting
them.
A
Yeah-
and
I
think
we
can-
we
can
get
our
meet
needs
for
connection
with
our
community
met
in
this
way
that
doesn't
necessarily
meet
our
needs
for
respecting
other
people.
A
A
How
do
we
connect
with
the
these
messages
and
people
who
are
communicating
in
these
ways,
and
how
can
we?
How
can
we
connect
in
a
way
that
maybe
we
can
get
all
of
our
needs
met?
So
why
don't
we?
Why
don't
we
keep
moving
on
on
the
slides
and
see
what,
because
we're
still
just
getting
into
the
sort
of
the
background
of
how
nonviolent
communication
came
about.
B
I
I
also
want
to
say
something
that
didn't
and
he
said
when
we
were
reading
the
the
book.
I
the
second
chapter.
He
made
a
reference
about
hannah
aaron
and
how
sometimes
we
think
that
the
like
most
violent
things
that
happened
were
made
by
men
without
hearts
or
that
are
different
than
us.
But
he
says
that
the
and
and
hannah
arendt
also
reflects
on
that
that
evil
is
very
vanille
the
banality
of
evil
and
and
that
really
the
evil.
B
Things
is
just
people
who
who,
who
is
not
really
taking
the
full
responsibilities
of
their
of
their
actions
and
sometimes
they're,
just
following
yeah,
some
some
institution
or
some
rule
to
to
back
up
their
their
their
action,
but
that,
through
non-violent
communication
we
should
be
it
promotes
responsibility
and
that
we
have
the
free
will
to
to
act
in
one
way
or
another.
A
Yeah
and
that's
that's
part,
that's
what
you
know.
That's
sort
of
what
we're
trying
to
get
at
here
is
that
the
idea
that
there's
good
guys
and
that
there's
bad
guys
and
that
the
good
guys
have
to
you
know
they
have
to
punish
the
bad
guys
to
to
win.
I
guess
we're
coming
up
next
with
that
in
retributive
justice.
The
idea
that,
when
people
are
right
wrong,
good
bad,
however
you're
judged
by
the
authorities,
then
you
deserve
to
be
rewarded
or
suffer
pending.
A
A
When
we
have
these
binary
static
images,
then
it's
very
hard
to
look
at
ourselves
as
someone
acting
in
ways
that
aren't
contributing
to
others
life
when
there's
only
the
good
guys
and
the
bad
guys.
We
gotta
be
the
good
guys,
and
somebody
else
has
got
to
be
that
guy
and
it
makes
it
really
hard
to.
A
A
Okay,
so
nonviolent
communication
now
with
that
was
the
really
tldr
of
where
non-violent
communication
came
from
and
now
we're
gonna
try
to
get
through
just
sort
of
what
the
main
ideas
that,
rather
than
judging
whether
someone's
right
or
wrong,
and
whether
to
punish
or
reward
with
nonviolent
communication,
we're
focusing
on
what's
happening
to
human
needs,
our
needs
their
needs
and
when
their
actions,
when
actions
aren't
fulfilling
needs,
then
we
can
change
to
actions
that
will
fulfill
needs.
A
A
Of
the
needs
of
everybody
else
in
the
community
doesn't
meet
all
of
the
need,
but
it's
important
to
understand
when
we're
thinking
about
how
do
we
replace
these
destructive
systems
that
they're
they're
there
for
a
reason
because
they
are
fulfilling
their
fulfilling
needs.
So
it's
just
important
to
keep
that
in
mind.
A
That's
not
really
focused
on
the
the
needs
in
the
situation,
so
the
process
of
non-violent
communication
involves
observations,
clear
observation
doesn't
analyze
or
judge
the
behavior,
but
just
action
peer
action,
language
feeling,
which
is
not
how
you
think
about
what
they
did,
but
actually,
like,
I
feel
stressed,
or
I
feel
sad
or
I
feel
I
feel
mad
or
whatever
you
know
and
then
to
the
needs
which
we'll
get
to
shortly.
There's
a
whole
list
of
needs
that
you
can
browse
through
and
then,
if
our
needs
aren't
met,
depend
on
a
clear
request.
A
If
you
listen
to
the
recordings
of
marshall
rosenberg,
it's
he
does
it's
a
lot
of
jackal
and
giraffe
language
and
the
jackal
language
is
when
we're.
Judging
what
people
are
and
we're
we're
addicted
to
our
strategies,
we're
making
demands
of
people
and
and
in
giraffe,
because
giraffes
have
the
biggest
heart
they
have
a
long
neck
to
reach,
for
what
the
feeling
and
needed.
A
A
A
D
A
We
divided
feelings
into
a
list
of
when
needs
are
met
and
when
they're
not
met
and
a
big
part
of
nonviolent
communication
is
just
gaining
a
illiteracy
and
becoming
more
comfortable
having
on
hand
at
any
moment,
a
set
of
nine
feelings
that
you
could
you
know
that
you
can
better
than
good
or
bad
good
and
bad.
You
know
how
you're
feeling
in
a
particular
moment.
A
So
what
he
suggests
is
like
going
through
these
lists
and
picking
out
which
words
most
you
most
relate
with
to
that
particular
feeling
and
how
you
would
use
it
in
your
natural
light,
because
you
know
when
you
start
practicing
this,
it
might
feel
a
little
jilted
at
times,
but
we're
aiming
ultimately
to
to
use
this
process
as
part
of
our
natural
expression
coming
out.
A
People
are
interested.
We
could
add
another
time
than
our
regular
tuesdays
to
do
little
workshops
on
some
of
this.
A
So
all
this
was
leading
to,
after
a
clear
expression
of
our
experience,
with
an
observation
of
what
someone
did
and
how
we
felt
in
relation
to
that
and
what
needs
were
the
or
the
cause
of
those
feelings
and
then
and
then
offering
a
clear
request
on
what
that
person
can
do
in
that
moment.
A
B
Also,
the
there's
a
difference
between
requests
and
demands
when
we
make
a
demand,
that's
a
type
of
communication
that
blocks
compassion
because
we
are
objectivizing
the
other
and
when,
when
we
ask
for
a
request-
or
we
make
a
suggestion,
we
recognize
the
free
will
of
the
other.
But
we
we
encourage
the
other
to
be
motivated
through
our
needs
and
feelings.
A
A
A
The
more
like,
as
I've
gotten
like
to
explore,
nonviolation
more
simply,
it
kind
of
helps
to
see
certain
ways
subtle
aspects
of
relationships
where
it
didn't
it
didn't
come
out
as
a
demand,
but
marshall
says
you
know
it's
a
demand
based
on
what
happens
if
they
don't
do
what
you
requested.
A
Well,
we're
actually
doing
pretty
good.
On
this
I
mean
there's
only
like
50
slides
to
get
left.
A
Does
anybody
have
any
thoughts
or
questions?
I
know
that
was
like
a
really
sort
of
hurried
run
through
of
that,
but
hopefully
this
is
just
helping
us
all
to
gain
a
little
more
familiar
concept.
D
D
C
D
A
Yeah
for
sure,
as
in
nonviolent
communication,
as
marshall
has
shared
with
us,
is
that
feelings,
if
any
time
you
say,
I
feel
that
I
feel
you
feelings
are
all.
Should
we
have
to
relate
it
to
our
emotion
within
this
framework,
or
else
it's
not
clear
like.
A
I
feel
that
you
don't
care,
isn't
the
same
as
saying
I
feel
hurt
when
you
respond
in
that
way.
You
know,
I
hope
that's
clarifying
a
little.
What
what
we're
getting
at
here.
A
I
don't
think.
I
really
took
notes
on
that
too
deeply.
E
E
And
what
fill
feelings
do
is
that
provide
you
with
a
way
of
avoiding
responsibility
for
your
own
feelings.
This
is
so
pervasive
and
that's
why
everyone
feels
like
they're,
essentially
projecting
their
judgments
upon
someone
else
without
taking
responsibility
for
them.
E
So
if
you
say
you
know,
I
feel
disrespected
that's
a
judgment
of
what
you
think
the
other
person
is
actually
doing
when
in
fact,
you're
not
really
sure
you're
just
projecting
your
idea
about
it,
and
so
it's
super
important
to
not
there's
a
lot
of
words
that
you
end
with
ed,
which
you
know
I
feel
disrespected
as
one
of
them
right.
E
So,
if
you
say
well,
I
feel
sad
or
I
feel
angry
or
feel
whatever.
When
you
do
some
specific
thing,
that's
a
far
better
way
of
making
the
person
clear
about
what
it
is,
that
you're
feeling
and
when,
as
opposed
to
you,
know,
just
putting
a
a
an
imagination
of
what
they're
they're
judging
you
for,
and
so
it's
also
important
to
do
that,
because
when
you
say
it
like
that,
it
makes
you
feel
responsible
for
your
own
feelings
and
we've
been
taught
that
that's
not
necessarily
a
good
thing.
C
A
That's
an
analysis
yes
or
a
judgment,
or
there
you
go
yeah
yeah
for
sure,
and
thanks
for
jumping
in
on
that
appreciated.
B
Also,
I
think
that
he
he
promotes
the
understanding
that
we
are
the
owners
of
our
own
feelings,
so
so
yeah,
it's
it's
like
we
shouldn't
like
see
on
others,
the
feelings
that
we're
feeling,
but
rather
see
the
feelings
within
ourselves
and
and
also
like
the
feeling
is
like
the
signal.
B
But
what
comes
after
the
feeling
is
to
identify
the
need
that
is
behind
the
feeling.
So
sometimes
you
you
you
may
say,
like
I'm
continuing
with
this
example
like
I
feel
disrespected
because
you
are
not
hearing
me.
Maybe
the
need
is
security
or
or
attention,
and
maybe
you
you
can
say
like
I,
I
if
you
would
like
to
make
a
request,
you
would.
B
Yeah,
so
the
internet
jumped.
B
Yeah
that
that
we
should
be
responsible
for
our
feelings
and
not
like
giving
that
responsibility
to
what
others
do
and
that
continuing
with
that
same
example
of
of
I
feel
disrespected.
I
am
feeling
disrespected.
B
Maybe
what
is
the
need
behind
behind
that
that
feeling
and
that
judgment
and
if
it's
attention
or
security,
so
so
that
you
can
like
really
understand
what
is
the
root
of
of
the
communication
that
you
want
to
have
and
not
like
maybe
yeah,
like
adding
layers
of
of
complexity?
B
I
think
that
nonviolent
communication
also
tries
to
to
to
express
things
like
the
the
most
simple
way
possible,
so
that
the
message
is
is
delivered
and
and
yes
when,
when
we
give
or
or
or
like,
give
the
responsibility
of
our
feelings
to
the
other,
we
we
cannot
express
what
is
really
inside
of
us.
A
I
think
we're
we're
coming
to
we're
kind
of
coming
towards
the
end
of
the
hour,
and
I
just
want
to
just
to
highlight
and
reiterate
that
the
a
big
part
of
what.
A
That
this
this,
this
training
taught
not
just
to
not
only
to
help
us
increase
the
harmony
in
our
relationships,
but
to
protect
society
and
humanity
from
from
dangerous
forces
that
that
aren't
people
in
organizations
seeking
to
meet
their
needs
at
the
expense
of
the
the
needs
of
others.
And
so
it's
it's
really.
A
A
And
I
also
wanted
to
show
how
the
same
process
is
used,
how
he
teaches
its
use
in
gratitude,
because
maybe
that'll
help
to
see
how
the
same
pattern
is
used
where,
when,
when
we're
sharing
gratitude,
that
marshall
says
it's,
we
can
the
person
who's
receiving
the
gratitude
can
get
a
lot
more
out
of
it
if,
rather
than
saying,
you're
incredible,
which
is
that
same
kind
of
judgment,
language,
judging
what
people
are,
because
if
it's
a
good
judgment,
it's
still
in
that
same
thing,
so
instead
we're
suggested
to
make
a
clear
statement
what
actions,
what
specifically
about
what
the
person
did,
how
what
actions
they
took
that
enriched
our
life.
A
So
it's
the
same
thing
when
we
have
a
problem
or
if
somebody,
and
if
you
scroll
back
through
the
slides
to
the
empathy
section,
it's
the
same
thing
that
like
were
focusing
on
you
know
what
what
they're
feeling
now
in
that
moment,
what
need
is
being
disrupted.
So
it's
this
observations.
Feelings
needs.
A
That's
the
that's
the
rubric
with
which
nonviolent
communication
uses
to
connect
in
all
of
our
different
types
of.
A
And
yeah,
if
anybody
else
wants
who
wants
to
add
something
to
that
anything
that
maybe
I
left
out
that
they
feel
is
really
important
to
cover
in
a
session
about
nonviolent
communication.
B
I
would
like
to
say
that
first
is
the
understanding
of
these
concepts,
but
then
comes
the
practice
and
the
practice
is
always
the
most
difficult
part,
but
by
being
conscious
of
of
the
types
of
communication
and
the
communication
mistakes
that
we
are
normally
doing,
we
can
start
making
small
changes
in
our
life,
and
I
feel
I
wasn't
really
clear
with
when
when
I
was
talking
before.
B
So,
what
I
wanted
to
say
is
that
we
are
the
owners
of
our
own
feelings
and
we
should
be
responsible
for
what
we
feel
and
not
trying
to
to
give
that
that
responsibility
to
others.
The
others
are
not
the
owners
of
our
feelings.
We
are
donors
of
our
feelings
and
and-
and
we
should
be
responsible
by
by
also
how
how
we
think
and
and
how
we
feel
it's
like
being
being
the
master
of
your
mind
and
the
master
of
your
body.
B
Sometimes
we
we
live
too
much
in
in
our
minds,
and
our
minds
can
behave
like
a
crazy
horse
and
and
through
non-violent
communication.
We
can
tame
that
crazy
horse
and
and
being
able
to
write
it.
And
that's
the
same.
B
That's
the
same
when
we
are
trying
to
communicate
with
others
like
non-violent
communication
is,
is
a
framework
that
helps
to
to
to
go
over
the
prisoner's
dilemma
and
not
like
everyone
taking
a
decision
without
without
taking
into
account
the
other,
but
to
try
to
to
to
take
the
best
decision
possible,
taking
into
account
the
needs
of
both
parts.
E
It
may
seem
a
little
bit
awkward
at
first,
because
we're
growing
up
with
with
words
and
phrases
and
methods
of
communicating
that
sort
of
remove
our
ability
to
feel
those
things,
but
over
time
it
can
really
gang
up
on
you
and
it's
a
very
beautiful
side
effect.
C
A
A
And
also
yeah,
so
there's
that
and
I
did
leave
some
other
links
but
that
what
right
there
on
that
tdr
page
of
the
presentation,
you
can
definitely.
E
My
favorite
workshop
in
the
gravity
channel.
B
Yeah,
but
all
these
are
our
everyday
practices.
It's
it's
not
like.
Okay,
I
get
nbc
and
I
have
it
in
my
mind,
but
I
don't
express
empathy,
it's
something
that
we
have
to
like
continue
practicing
every
day,
and
sooner
or
later
we
we
will
get
the
best
out
of
it
and
yeah.
Now
that
we're
getting
to
the
end
of
this
call,
I
would
like
to
thank
didan
for
this
presentation.
B
It
was
amazing-
and
I
also
thank
all
of
you
for
coming,
because
I
see
a
lot
of
consistency
in
the
in
the
participants,
and
that
is
amazing.
I
I
foresee
like
a
lot
of
gravitons
and
a
lot
of
interesting
discussions
that
we
can
have
and
a
lot
of
collaboration
that
we
can
have
in
the
space
and
yeah.
I'm
very
thankful
for
that.
B
Also
next
session
we
will
have
lorelai,
who
is
also
someone
who
is
working
in
human
resources
for
a
lot
of
time
in
the
dao
space
and
she's,
currently
now
working
in
bitcoin,
so
she
will
be
telling
us
about
how
can
we
have
conflict
management
within
organizations
and
yeah?
I
really
hope
that
you
are
enjoying
the
training
and
that
the
topics
are
being
aligned
session
after
session
and
yeah.
B
I
would
like
to
also
to
open
mike
if,
if
someone
has
some
question
or
request
for
this
training,.
B
So
someone
can
answer
really
quick.
What
did
you
learn
today
or
what
was
your
favorite
part
of
today's
talk
by
didn't.
A
Thank
you,
and
also
I
want
to
invite
anyone
who's
interested
in
helping
to
improve
the
slides.
That's
going
to
be
a
work
in
progress,
I'd
like
it
to
be
a
little
bit
better
organized
than
it
is,
but
please
do
reach
out.
A
And
also
oh,
go
ahead.
D
Sorry
I
was
just
gonna
say
that
I
I
appreciate
the
way
that
you
do
the
slides
and
the
presentation.
It
was
very
well
said
everything
that
you
said.
I
just
want
to
say
they
did
a
good
job
and
thank
you
for
sharing
that
with
us.
A
Thank
you,
and
thanks
for
the
appreciation
I
it's
a
little
bit
of
a.
A
I
didn't,
have
as
much
time
to
work
on
it
as
I
wanted
to.
So
I'm
glad
that
it
was
able
to
come
together
the
way
that
it
did.
B
So
well
thanks
everyone
and
yeah.
This
was
the
fourth
session
of
the
graphical
training.