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From YouTube: Effective Communication
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Hello,
my
name
is
mary
kay
connerton,
and
I
am
here
to
share
with
you
some
tips
on
having
effective
communication.
So
how
can
I
encourage
effective
communication
with
my
child?
Communication
is
key
and
oftentimes
communication
becomes
the
root
of
when
problems
begin
to
arise.
So
if
we
can
allow
ourselves
to
understand
communication
and
then
how
we
can
effectively
communicate
and
then
trickle
that
down
to
our
children
just
makes
for
a
better
way
of
life.
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It
can
be
blaming
or
you
can
come
out
as
an
apology
to
start,
but
then
it's
really
not,
and
so
basically
you're
saying
that
others
rights
and
needs
take
precedence
over
mine.
Then
we
have
aggressive,
which
I'm
actually
going
to
jump
to.
A
First,
as
you
can
see
popping
over
there,
which
is
it's
kind
of
like
direct
and
blame
and
controlling
it
could
be
attacking,
can
be,
can
be
really
yucky
feeling
when
this
happens,
and
so
when
you
mold
two
of
those
together
passive
aggressive,
is
obviously
a
little
bit
of
a
blend
of
the
two.
A
How
you're
you're
not
exactly
saying
what
you
what
you
want
or
what
you're
feeling,
but
but
you're,
also
being
aggressive
with
that,
and
then
we
have
finally
assertiveness
and
so
being
assertive
means
and
when
you
are
really
taking
into
account
how
you
can
honestly
say
what
you're
thinking
or
feeling,
while
keeping
others
emotions
involved.
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So
you
are
therefore
being
a
little
bit
more
empathetic
towards
others,
while
trying
to
express
what
it
is
that
you
are
feeling
and
needing
okay.
So
we
really
want
to
work
from
this
assertive
space
of
communication.
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A
So
I
feel
because-
and
when
this
happens
I
feel
or
what
I
need
is,
and
so,
when
you're,
using
the
the
sense
of
I
it's
putting
the
control
and
ownership
within
yourself,
which
then
eliminates
the
passive
aggressiveness.
It
also
helps
you
to
be
from
a
space
of
knowing
which
then
really
backs
off
of
that
aggressive
nature
and
puts
you
in
that
space
of
assertiveness.
So
I
statements
are
the
way
to
go.
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So
we
have
a
little
assertive
communication
checklist.
You
want
to
think
of
the
following.
So,
what's
the
volume
of
your
voice
right,
a
great
strategy
when
your
child
is
actually
raising
their
voice
is
to
say
to
them?
Could
you
just
lower
your
voice
a
little
bit?
I
really
want
to
understand
you.
Can
you
just
talk
a
little
bit
lower
that
often
times
cues
in
okay,
someone
is
hearing
me
and
we
all
want
to
be
heard.
Okay.
What
setting
are
you
in
when
you
are
communicating?
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Is
it
appropriate
and-
and
that's
also
key,
to
teach
to
your
to
your
child
right,
even
the
situational
example
of
if
your
child
needs
to
talk
to
his
teacher
or
coach
or
employer?
When
is
the
appropriate
time
to
do?
That,
is
that,
at
you
know
a
practice
when
everyone
is
trying
to
learn
a
skill?
Is
that
in
the
middle
of
class?
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Is
that
at
the
peak
of
the
busy
hours
for
the
business,
you
want
to
really
be
thinking
about
the
setting
that
you're
in
with
your
child,
when
communicating
and
teaching
them
the
appropriate
setting
with
that
comes
in?
Who
else
is
around
so
who
should
be
a
part
of
the
conversation
and
also
teaching
our
children
that
their
words
and
their
thoughts
and
emotions
they're
of
value
right
so
really
being
sure
of
who
you're
sharing
things
with
right?
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A
A
Of
course,
if
you
are
trying
to
get
your
child
to
do
something
and
they're
saying
no
to
you,
such
as
maybe
a
chore
in
the
house
or
going
to
school,
something
that
nature
that's
a
little
bit
different
here
right.
You
have
that
fine
line,
but
really
allowing
your
child
to
to
know
that.
A
If
someone
is
to
say
no
about
something
that
they're
doing
that,
that
is
a
full
sentence
and
that
when
they
say
that
too,
that
is
a
full
sentence
and
asking
permission
before
emotionally
unloading
on
others
is
a
key
principle,
so
you
know
asking
someone
first,
can
I
share
something
with
you?
Do
you
have
the
capacity?
I
love
that
word
capacity.
Do
you
do
you
have
that
capacity
for
me
to
share
this,
and
you
know
capacity
is
also
something
you
want
to
maybe
have
a
radar
on
for
the
capacity
of
your
child.
A
Is
he
or
she
hungry
or
lacking
sleep
or
or
just
not
in
a
place
to
talk
about
something?
Are
you
maybe
not
in
that
space,
to
talk
about
something
so
really
taking
that
awareness
piece
into
play
here
and
finally,
the
third
principle
is
taking
space
to
calm
down
before
engaging
in
a
productive
conversation.
A
Think
of
others
needs
think
of
think
of
how
you
need
to
kind
of
make
that
balance
in
between
the
two
to
have
that
assertiveness
and
use
that
as
your
guide
and
again,
if
you
have
any
other
needs
or
you're
seeking
other
resources,
please
don't
hesitate
to
contact
your
child's
school
counselor
or
to
tap
into
one
of
these
other
avenues
as
well.
So
I
hope
this
provides
you
with
an
inside
look
into
some
ways
that
you
can
effectively
communicate
and
to
share
that
with
your
child
and
we'll
have
you
tune
in
next
time.