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NVC summary 3
Nonviolent communication, a language of life by M. Rosenberg (Audiobook)
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Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication 1
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B
C
Oh
wow,
I
had
no
idea
that
it
would
actually
control
the.
C
Okay,
everyone
can
hear
me:
okay,
hopefully
yep.
C
Thanks
everybody
for
coming,
we
still
got
people
rolling
in
right
now.
Actually,
let
me
get
my.
Let
me
drop
the
link
for
this
presentation
before
we
go
too
much
further
into
our
chat
here.
So
folks
at
home
can
follow
along
at
their
own
pace,
so
I'll
make
sure
that
it.
C
Make
sure
the
sharing
settings
are
on
that,
so
everybody
can
do
it,
but
right
now,
for
the
kind
of
opening
exercise
we're
going
to
just
explore
a
physical
sensation.
C
Any
physical
sensation
that
you
notice
and
you
want
to
share
in
the
in
the
chat
here,
that'll
be
a
great
way
to
get
us
prepared
for
this
discussion.
C
Shanzi
I'm
looking,
for
I
mean
physical
sensation.
I
don't
know
if
maybe
peaceful
as
a
is
a
sensation,
but
if
you
can
locate
any
sensation
somewhere
in
your
body
like
right
now,
I'm
I'm
feeling
like
right
in
my
center.
C
C
Maybe
maybe
it's
it's
not
always
easy
for
us
to
identify
exactly
what
we're
feeling
and
that's
partly
what
this
session
is
about.
C
Some
food
stuck
in
the
teeth,
so
maybe
there's
some
pressure
there-
heaviness,
yes,
and
that
maybe
is
more
of
a
there's,
a
physical
sensation.
To
that
that's
hard
to
describe
awesome.
C
A
Sorry,
sorry,
I
think
there's
some
people
in
the
waiting
room.
C
Is
finding
their
way
in
and
now
I
can
see,
I
can
keep
a
better
eye
on
that.
It
was
telling
me
when
people
were
waiting.
D
C
Everybody
hello,
we
were
just
exploring
some
physical
sensations
within
our
bodies
and
sharing
in
the
chat
just
to
kind
of
warm
up
the
session
in
at
the
top
of
those
notes.
At
the
top
of
the
chat,
is
a
link
to
our
presentation.
C
C
Okay,
and
as
I
was
mentioning,
if
you
look
at
the
presentation
slideshow
in
the
notes
underneath
there,
a
lot
of
the
slides,
have
notes
and
links
to
more
information
to
videos,
audio.
C
Images
whatever
that
I
happen
to
find
along
the
way,
so
so
be
sure
to
notice,
and
take
advantage
of
that
too.
If
you're
trying
to
find
out
anything
else.
C
It
was
his
belief
that
violence
in
the
planet
was
created
by
the
way
that
we
think
in
the
way
that
we
speak
and
he
created
this
process.
While
as
a
product
of
the
research
that
he
embarked
on
to
discover
what
makes
people
seem
to
what
makes
people
some
people
enjoy
compassionate
giving
and
then
what
makes
others
seem
to
thrive
on
the
suffering
of
others.
C
So
you
know
we're
not
going
to
talk
a
lot
about
that,
but
just
understand
that
that's
where
this
all
comes
from
and
there's
a
link
to
the
last
session.
I
did
for
on
nonviolent
community
communication
here
on
this
slide
and
there's
a
ton
of
quotes
that
kind
of
break
down
the
whole
process,
but
I
think
we're
gonna.
C
C
C
C
C
The
same
when
something
that
we
do
isn't
contributing
to
the
needs
of
someone
that
they
can
communicate
with
us,
hey,
you
know
like
this
is
how
I
feel,
when
x,
y
and
z
happens,
which
interferes
with
my
needs
in
area
a
can
you
you
know,
would
you
be
willing
to
do
something
different
to
help
me
meet
this
need
part
of
the
problem.
Is
that
we
don't
that's
not
what
we're
trained
and
taught
how
to
do?
That's
not
what
we're
we're
used
to
doing
is
when
I
feel
upset.
C
I
think,
like
oh,
what
a
jerk
that
this
person
just
was
so
rude
to
me
and
I'm
not
thinking
about
what
needs.
I
have
I'm
thinking
about
a
specific
strategy
for
meeting
those
needs
and.
C
Yeah
and
nonviolent
communication
is
a
core
component
of
our
gravity,
our
whole
gravity
foundation
for
gravity,
and
they
all
it
all
kind
of
revolves
on
a
on
a
spectrum
from
creating
frameworks
that
support
the
kind
of
community
that
we
want
to
be
able
to
have
and
having
measures
to
to
to
address
when
things
aren't
going,
the
way
that
we'd
like
or
when
there's
conflicts
between
individuals
or
situations
where
people
aren't
feeling
feeling
so
great.
C
C
A
couple
of
important
core
aspects
of
nonlinear
communication
is
that
the
idea
is
to
connect
with
ourselves
in
a
way
that
promotes
compassionate,
giving
not
judging
what
people
are
like
that
person's
a
jerk.
C
That
person
is,
you
know
so
rude,
but
or
but
judging
behavior
based
on
how
it
meets
our
needs
and
avoiding
enemy
images,
which
kind
of
goes
into
that.
Judging
what
people
are,
and
we
get
just
it's
hard
to
explain,
but
we
get
caught
up
in
this
feeling
of
just.
C
Injustice
or
that
it's
so
wrong
what
the
person
did
and
it's
hard
in
that
to
just
really
see
what
is
actually
the
problem,
and
it's
not
always
immediate
evident
in
the
moment.
C
C
I
think
it's
left
out
that
the
reason
that
we
have
this
type
of
language
that
judges
what
we
are
rather
than
how
our
behaviors
met
needs
or
how
it's
interfered
with
needs
is
that
it
helps
to
maintain
domination
structures
and
so
that
we're
always
looking
to
authorities
on
whether
we're
right
or
wrong
or
good
or
bad,
and
this
language
identifies
us
as
a
certain
type
of
person
based
on
our
behavior,
our
appearance,
our
intelligence.
C
You
know
the
way
we
talk
the
way
we
dress,
how
we
look
and
retributive
justice
judges,
people
as
wrong
right
or
wrong,
good
or
bad,
and
if
you're
judged
is
good,
then
you
deserve
to
be
rewarded.
C
E
C
And
you
know
another
thing
about
the
judging
what
people
are
is.
It
also
goes
not
just
on
the
negative
judgments,
but
also
the
positive
judgments
of
you
are
great.
Oh
you're
awesome.
C
C
And
during
my
research
you
know
the
of
common.
C
The
common
framework
for
nonviolent
communication
is
observations.
Feelings
needs
and
requests,
o
o
n,
f,
r,
o
f
n
r,
if
you're,
no
nominee
communication,
if
you're
familiar
you've,
seen
this
ofr
before,
but
I
thought
it
makes
sense
to
add
the
t
onto
that
marshall
added.
He
had
a
big
section
on
gratitude
in
his
workshops.
C
C
The
the
acronym
ofnr
observation
feelings
needs
requests
and
thanks
because
you
know
first
we're
it's
all
about
observations,
feelings
and
needs
and
whether
those
needs
are
met,
then
we
can
give
thanks
and
when
those
needs
are
not
met,
then
we
can
make
clear
requests
time
tying
in
our
needs
and
our
feelings
and
the
observation,
and
as
someone
who
has
studied
nonviolent
communication
for
like
four
years,
I
can
say
that
all
this
is
really
not
super
easy.
C
It
sounds
kind
of
simple
it's
kind
of
a
lot
to
wrap
your
head
around,
at
least
if
you're
me,
and
so
that's
kind
of
what
we
want
to
do.
This
session
is
to
get
more
familiar
with
with
the
feelings
and
the
needs.
C
Because
observat
observations
were
we're.
Looking
for
straightforward
facts,
not
our
evaluation
of
the
behavior,
not
our
judgment,
of
what
they
are
based
on
the
thing
that
they
did
and
our
needs
are
going
to
tie
to
universal
human
needs.
We're
not
looking
to
blame
we're,
not
we're
not
trying
to
enforce
people
to
fulfill
our
expectations.
C
C
But
first
I
want
to
just
pause.
I
just
spit
out
a
lot
of
words,
and
you
know
I'd
like
to
take
a
little
break
and
hear
if
anybody
has
any
thoughts
or
questions
they
want
to
put
out.
We
can
take
a
few
minutes
for
brief
thoughts
or
reflections.
C
And
you
can
I'm
looking
for
the.
C
Yes,
wonka,
you
can
you
can
unmute.
A
Yeah
also
chauncey
was
raising
the
hand,
but
I
love
this
topic
and
I
wanted
to
say
two
things.
A
One
is
about
a
book
of
john
paul
sartre
that
is
called
a
closed
door
and
it's
a
play
of
people
in
hell
and
they
are
facing
an
uncomfortable
position,
but
as
they
are
dead,
they
cannot
change
and
jean
paul
sartre
says
that
what
distincts
living
from
dead
people
is
the
capacity
of
changing,
and
when
you
say
that
some
person
is
x,
you
are
giving
them
like
a
fixed
role
and
you
are
not
allowing
them
to
change.
So
when
you
stop
objectifying
people,
you
start
allowing
them
to
change.
A
So
if
you
want
something
someone
to
change
instead
of
do
instead
of
telling
them
what
you
judge
that
they
are
because
that
only
perpetuates
that
behavior
and
fits
your
ego
with
the,
I
was
right,
try
focusing
on
what
do
you
want
and
what
can
you
do
to
meet
your
needs
based
on
the
of
on
the
process?
A
That
dan
is
is,
is
explaining
where
you
don't
focus
on
your
perception
or
on
the
other,
but
you
focus
on
what
can
you
do
to
to
enrich
life
and
meet
needs
of
the
people
who
is
participating.
C
Yeah
yeah
go
ahead
and
then
after
you're
you're
done
talking
guyan
you
can
just
unmute
chanzi
when
you're,
when
he's
done
and
go
after
that.
B
Okay,
cool
yeah.
I
just
think
it's
it's
interesting,
the
way
it's
being
described.
I
haven't
heard
nbc
correlated
with
retributive
justice
like
that
before,
but
that
that
makes
a
lot
of
sense
and
the
notion
of
just
tying
into
this
human
impulse
of
like
us
versus
them,
like
I've
heard
studies
or
they
divide
people
just
totally
arbitrarily
by
like
who
likes
country,
music
or
what
color
your
eyes
or
whatever
and
very
quickly.
People
just
start
talking
about
the
other
side.
B
Basically,
and
so
there
is
that
impulse,
but
there's
also,
I
think,
by
focusing
on
one's
own
needs.
It's
also
recognizing,
like
these
are
universal
human
needs,
and
not
only
do
I
feel
them
myself,
but
other
people
feel
them
in
themselves
as
well,
and
that
very
much
pushes
one
into
the
direction
of
empathy
so
yeah
thanks
for
explaining
it
that
way,
that
was
really
useful.
For
me.
A
C
E
I
appreciate
you
guys
letting
me
get
up
here
and
speak,
but
no,
I
don't
know
when
so
when
we
talk
about
needs,
something
that
comes
to
my
mind,
like
immediately
is
like
like
how
do
we
know
what
our
needs
are?
Like
I
mean,
I
think
we
all
think
we
know
what
our
needs
are,
but
I
think
that
sometimes
you
know
you
kind
of
lose
sight
of
the
force
from
the
trees.
E
You
know
what
I
mean
and
with
that
being
said,
I
think
it's
really
important
to
recognize
that,
because
sometimes
we
don't
actually
know
what
is
best
for
us
that
when
we
are
presented
with
that
thing,
that
is
actually
what
we
need.
E
E
That
no,
like
knows
that
you
really
don't
know
anything
and
to
be
humble
to
any
kind
of
opinions,
and
example
that
I'm
going
to
use
for
this
is
my
very
best
friend.
We've
been
friends
for
about
six
or
seven
years
now
he
has
a
way
of
telling
me
that
I
am
just
absolutely
messing
up
and
that,
like
hey,
you
should
try
it
this
way
and
I
may
not
like
it
when
he
says
it,
but
once
I
do
it,
I'm,
like
you
know
what
you're
right.
You
know,
and
I
think
I
don't
know
it's
like.
E
I
said
we're
just
talking
about
feelings
and
needs,
and
I
think
that
part
of
that
is
just
I
said,
staying
humble
to
the
fact
that
we
really
don't
know
what
we
need,
because
we
really
don't
know
like
who
we
are.
You
know
I
mean
I
think
alan
watts
says
you
know
you
can't
bite
your
own
teeth,
you
know
and
yeah.
That
was
just
thought
that
I
had
thank
you.
C
Yes,
absolutely
I,
as
years
go
on
and
the
more
I
learn.
It's
definitely
you
know
I
can
see
how
most
of
my
life
I've
gone
through
with
this
sort
of
illusion
that
I,
this
illusion
of
being
a
free
actor
in
the
world,
choosing
what
I
wanted
and
doing
what
I
wanted.
C
Not
what
you
know,
but
we're
you
know
were
all
like
a
kind
of
big
jumble
of
complexes
where
we're
reacting
to
some
emotions
that
we
have
stored
up
and
all
sorts
of
different
reactions,
and
it's
just
it
is
really
like
our
we're.
Like
a
big
puzzle.
I
it's
hard
to
it's
hard
to
realize
like
each
time
I
feel
like
oh
wow,
I
have
some
more
awareness
of
the
world
and
then
a
couple
years
later,
I'm
just
like
oh
yeah,
I
didn't
know
anything
what
I
was
talking
about.
C
Even
so,
that's
so
much
so
much
for
all
that.
E
If
I,
if
I
may
say
one
more
one
more
thing
and
then
I'll
I'll
mute,
but
one
of
the
best
pieces
of
advice,
I've
ever
gotten
is
that
if
something
is
triggering
you,
that's
where
your
work
lies
simple.
As
that.
C
Yeah
and-
and
I
definitely
recognize
that
a
lot
of
times
when
I'm
getting
upset
by
something
that
somebody
else
does
that
that's
something
about
myself-
that
I
really
don't
want
to
examine
that
ties
into
shadow
work,
which
is
definitely
an
important
subject.
That
gravity
deals
with,
but
we're
not
going
to
get
too
much
deeper
into
that
today.
C
Well,
nonviolent
communication
does
help
us
with
that,
because
when,
in
that
moment,
when
we're
being
judged,
we
can
look
to
the
other
person
in
our
imagination
and
we
can.
We
can
imagine
what
they
might
be
feeling
and
what
they,
what
needs
of
theirs
might
be
interfered
with
whether
by
our
action
or
not,
and
then
I
mean
it
doesn't
eliminate
the
pain
of
the
judgment
and
the
reaction
from
the
other
person.
C
But
it
definitely
you
know
at
least
add
some
perspective,
and
perhaps
through
that
you
could,
you
could
look
and
find
a
solution
by
really
considering
what
the
other
person's
needs
are.
Maybe
they're
not
reacting
in
a
healthy
way,
but
if
you
figure
out
what
their
needs
are
and
you
can
meet
their
needs,
then
you
might
very
well
or
you
can
help
towards
that
end.
Then
there's
certain,
certainly
a
chance
that
you
know.
Maybe
you
could
change
their
behavior
through
focusing
on
the
needs.
C
C
I
don't
know,
if
maybe
yeah,
I
think
we
don't
need
to.
We
don't
need
to
talk,
but
we
can
each
we
can
take,
or
I
can
even
just
read
them
aloud,
but
I
would
like
for
each
of
the
feelings
to
for
you
to
consider,
even
if
it's
not
one
of
the
feelings
listed
or
the
versions
of
the
word,
that
what
what
kind
of
word
would
would
match
for
you
in
that
situation.
C
We
have
start
with
the
feelings
when
needs
are
met
because
those
are
the
fun
ones.
We
have
exhilarated
static,
elated,
enthralled,
exuberant,
giddy,
silly
slap
happy
and
yes,
you
can
see
these
are
not
all
sensations.
When
I
like,
when
I
started
in
the
beginning
of
the
session,
I
wanted
us
to
focus
on.
I
wanted
to
narrow
the
focus
as
tightly
as
possible
because,
usually
when
we
say
I
feel
people
start
the
sentence,
I
feel,
and
then
they
go
on
to
describe
their
thoughts
on
the
matter.
C
I
feel
that
you
just
don't
understand
what
I'm
talking
about.
No,
that's
a
thought:
that's
not
a
feeling,
so
we're
not
quite
that
strict
on
as
far
as
only
naming
specific
sensations,
but
getting
to
name
and
understand
what
sensations
are
happening
in
our
body
when
we're
having
these
feelings
is
is
important,
maybe
not
specifically
non-violent
communication,
but
it's
definitely
part
of
our
our
literacy
in
feelings
and
needs.
C
Excited
alive,
which
also
can
be
expressed
as
a
live
amazed,
animated,
eager,
energetic,
enthusiastic
invigorated,
lively,
passionate,
inspired,
also
expressed
as
amazed
astonished,
odd
dazzled,
radiant,
raptures,
surprised,
thrilled,
uplifted.
C
And
yes,
these
are
not
all
expressing
exactly
the
same
feeling
and
they
will
fit
in
different
circumstances,
but
we're
trying
to
expand
greatly
beyond
the
the
norm
from
hey.
How
are
you,
oh
I'm
doing
all
right
or
I'm
good,
I'm
bad.
C
You
know
I
haven't
my
most
of
my
life
been
very
used
to
thinking
in
terms
of
all
all
these
different
descriptive
words
for
feelings,
but
it's
exactly
this
kind
of
inquiry
into
what
we're
feeling
exactly
and
not
what
we're
just
thinking
about
a
situation,
but
how
we're
feeling
in
our
bodies
of
that's
that's,
going
to
bring
us
closer
to
connecting
with
other
people
as
people
and
not
just
reacting.
C
You're,
taking
some
of
this
time
to
specify
some
some
feeling,
words
that
you
connect
with
and
that
you.
C
Maybe
even
just
choose
one
from
each
each
row
and
read
them
off.
C
Yeah
that'd
be
great
because
I
think
you
know
most
times
and
the
reason
why
I'm
doing
this
is
because
the
most
times
that
I
have
been
in
non-violent
communication,
trainings
or
workshops,
or
whatever
we
kind
of
breeze
by
this
feeling
section,
you
see
a
big
chart
of
all
the
feelings
and
then
it's
sort
of
like
I'll
get
around
to
that
someday.
So
that's
today.
E
Okay,
relaxed
where's
relaxed
at
ease,
carefree,
comfortable,
open.
F
F
F
B
B
C
B
So
affectionate,
compassionate
friendly,
loving
open-hearted,
sympathetic
tender,
trusting
warm
peaceful,
blissful,
calm,
centered,
clear-headed
mellow,
quiet,
serene
tranquil,
so
yeah
any
other
person
want
to
head
in
because
I
feel
really
tranquil
right
now.
C
I
I'll
close
up
this
page
with
relieved
complacent
composed
cool,
trusting
and
collected
feeling
collected
right
now
that
wasn't
that's
a
bonus
word.
It
wasn't
on
the
list,
content,
glad
cheerful,
fulfilled
and
satisfied.
That's
great!
I'm
glad
we
got
to
spend
so
much
time
with
these
feelings
when
our
needs
are
met,
because
I
think
we
don't
spend
enough
time
with
them.
C
That's
that's
my
suspicion
feelings
with
unmet
needs.
We
might
even
be
more
familiar
with
hostile,
antagonistic
cold
contempt,
disgusted
disliked
hate,
horrified,
repulsed,
scorned,
vengeful
yes,
and
these
these
feelings
can
be
very
easily
used
to
encourage
us
towards.
C
Towards
that
type
of
behavior,
that's
judging
and
punishing,
and
all
that
annoyed,
aggravated
bitter
cranky
cross
dismayed
disgruntled
displeased
exasperated
frustrated,
upset,
agitated,
alarmed
disturbed
rattled,
restless
troubled
turmoil.
Uncomfortable
uneasy,
unsettled
tense,
anxious
distressed,
fidgety,
frazzled,
irritable,
jittery,
nervous,
overwhelmed
restless
stressed
you
can
see
as
compared
with
like
the
top
line.
C
Hostile
feelings
are
sort
of
pointed
at
other
people,
hostile,
angry
annoyed
upset
and,
as
you
go
down,
they're
less
personal
they're,
more
personal
to
us
and
what
we're
experiencing
and
that's
more
what
you
know,
we're
gonna
feel
those
we're
gonna
feel
those
feelings
of
anger
and
hostility
and
annoyance
with
people
and
those
are
sort
of
like
our
gateway
feelings
into
you
know
the
more
neutral
things
that
we're
feeling
in
relation
or
yeah,
so
less
personal
ones
can
help
getting
in
touch
with
these
less.
C
These
feelings
that
aren't,
as
directed
at
other
people,
can
help
us
to
to
break
free
of
the
enemy
images
and
the
you
know
the.
C
Change
our
focus
more
to
the
to
the
needs
and
not
on
what
we
don't
like
about
the
other
person
confused,
ambivalent,
baffled,
dazed,
flustered,
hesitant
lost
perplexed
puzzled,
skeptical
torn
embarrassed,
ashamed,
contrite,
guilty
disgraced,
humiliated,
mortified,
regretful
self-conscious.
These
are
some
more
gateway
feelings
that
could
maybe
help
us
get
closer
in
touch
with
the
the
needs.
C
And
we
should
use
those
feelings
as
a
reminder
that
oh,
some
need
of
mine
isn't
met
and
does
somebody
want
to
volunteer
to
read
out
the
the
from
the
universal
human
needs
list.
E
I
thought
you
want
to
jump
into
contessa.
You
want
rock
paper
scissors
on
this.
No,
you
can
go
ahead,
you
got
it
all
right.
Connection
is
my
jam.
If
you
guys
didn't
know
so
connection
acceptance
affection
there,
we
go
appreciation
belonging
care,
another
one,
one
of
the
greatest
hits
greatest
feeling
ever:
cooperation:
communication,
closeness,
community,
compassion,
empathy,
inclusion,
safety,
security,
stability,
support,
trust
and
warmth.
E
C
A
Yeah,
I
just
wanted
to
compliment
that.
Sometimes,
when
we
think
of
well-being
and
on
human
needs,
one
of
the
main
ones
is
like
the
financial
need,
but
that's
something
that
we've
been
talking
about
in
multiple
of
our
sessions,
that
there
are
multiple
ways
of
that:
a
human
can
experience
wealth,
so
there's
the
financial
wealth,
but
there's
also
the
physical
wealth,
there's
also
the
social
wealth.
So
so
in
this
well-being.
A
C
C
You
know
your
need
might
be
security,
shelter,
food,
but
the
this
your
strategy
in
that
moment
is
oh,
I
need
some
money
and
so
that
you
know
it
does
encourage
creativity
in
considering
our
problems
as
bigger
than
just
what
the
strategy
that
first
comes
to
mind
or
when
somebody
interferes
with
one
of
our
strategies
to
open
our
mind
a
bit
to
consider.
Well,
what
do
I
really
need
here
and
how
can
I
work
with
this
person
so
that
both
of
our
needs
can
be
met.
C
I
don't
see
any
other
hands
up.
Oh
okay,
you
want
to
come
back
in
on
honesty
or
no
on
peace,
yep.
B
C
Absolutely-
and
I
don't
know
if
somebody
read
autonomy-
and
I
was
just
scrolling
through
my
list
looking
for
hand
raises,
but
autonomy
is
a
pr
important
one
to
consider
and
a
lot
of
times.
We
just
want
to
keep
in
mind
that
our
strategy,
our
strategies
for
meeting
our
needs,
can
interfere
with
somebody
else's
autonomy
if
we're
not,
if
we're
not
really
open
to
finding
a
different
way
than
just
this.
One
way
that
we've
thought
to
do
it.
C
So
that's
awesome
thanks
everybody
for
for
helping
out
with
the
readings,
and
hopefully
somebody
in
this
group
has
a
list
of
feelings
and
needs
in
their
own
of
their
own
that
they
can
use.
I
I'm
gonna
do
this
after
the
session
and
get
my
words
like
I've
been
meaning
to
for
the
last
three
years.
C
So
now
we
are
to
it's
almost
over,
but
now
we're.
The
main
point
of
this
session
is
expressing
gratitude
and
non-violent
communication,
which
this
slide
that
I'm
on
right
now
there's
a
direct
link
to
the
place
in
a
direct
link
to
marshall
rosenberg,
talking
about
how
to
express
and
receive
gratitude.
C
So
if
you
feel
like
you
want
to
listen
to
that
later,
please
just
be
aware
that
it's
there
and,
as
we've
already
covered
a
number
of
times,
gratitude
in
my
communication
involves
observing
what
action
enriched
our
life,
not
just
like
you
make
me
feel
great,
but
you
know
the
way
you
talk
to
me.
C
C
C
So
there's
some
exercises.
This
isn't
really
meant
for
us
to
do,
but
just
for
us
to
consider
for
the
future
or
you
can
try
this
at
home.
Think
of
a
gratitude
that
you
would
have
loved
to
receive
but
didn't
practice
how
it
would
be
expressed
as
observation
feeling
and
need,
and
then
then
imagine
telling
them
about
this
exercise
and
why
and
ask
them
why
they
didn't
share
thanks.
C
C
On
this
on,
the
second
page
is
a
journal
when
I
remember,
I
feel,
because
it
contributes
to
my
need
for
and
it
there
so
if
it
makes
it
easier
for
you.
You
might
like
this
journal
that
kate
raffin
made
in
2018
and
there's
other
there's
a
whole
session.
That
marshall
did
on
gratitude,
also
linked
there.
C
C
A
Yeah,
just
before
jumping
into
that
this
last
section,
I
think
you
went
over
really
fast
of
this,
a
slide
that
says
difficulties
receiving
gratitude.
I
think
it's
worth
talking
about.
We
all
sometimes
struggle
to
receive
gratitude.
C
Absolutely
you're
right
and
I
I
and
everybody,
obviously,
if
you
have
somewhere
to
go
at
three,
don't
be
don't
feel
bad.
You
know
you
thanks
for
sticking
around
and
anybody
who
wants
to
stay.
I
don't
have
anything
immediately
after
this,
so
you
can
feel
welcome
to
hang
around
and
we
can
continue
on
this.
But
yes,
absolutely.
That
was
a
big,
a
big
part
of
that
session.
Nine.
C
In
the
workshop,
the
training
workshop
that
marshall
taught
was
that
a
lot
of
times
we
don't
you
know
people
want
to
downplay
what
good
they
did
or
they
feel
like.
C
Oh,
this
is
just
something
that
it
was
my
duty
or
there
was
like
some
obligation
that
they
had
and
that's
I
thought
I've
took
notes
on
that.
Actually,
but
there
that's
a
big
important
part
of
non-binary.
Communication,
too,
is
that
you
know
you
don't
have
to
do
anything
and
we're
not.
We
don't
want
to
think
of.
C
We
don't
want
to
think
of
obligations,
because
that's
one
way
that
people
can
they
don't
they
feel
like
they
don't
have
any
choice.
That's
how
a
lot
of
unjust
and
horrible
things
happen
in
the
world
because
they're
following
orders
or
just
doing
their
job,
but
non-violent
communication
wants
us
to
remember
our
freedom
and
our
choice
in
every
circumstance,
and
so
we
want
to
avoid
that
type
of
kind
of
it's
sort
of
like
a
false
humility.
C
Where
we
don't
it's
it's
important
to
receive
to
receive
gratitude
and
praise
and
the
you
know
the
simplest
thing
is
just
to
say.
Thank
you.
You
know
that's.
I
appreciate
you
sharing
that,
even
if
it's
uncomfortable
it's
better
than
denying
someone's
praise,
which
maybe
was
hard
for
them
to
share
in
the
first
place
yeah.
So
if
you
have
been
around
the
token
engineering
commons
with
gravity
for
a
while,
then
you
probably
know
how
to
do
praise.
C
But
if
you
haven't,
you
can
go
to
the
praise
channel
on
our
discord,
server
and
type
forward,
slash,
backslash
activate,
and
then
you
can
use
the
praise
command
there
and
my
we
did
this
a
while
ago
and
it
was
at
first
my
thought
of
trying
to
add
the
feeling
and
the
need
to
every
time
we
praise,
but
I
think
it's
maybe
simpler,
just
to
add
the
need.
C
What
need
was
meant
because
I
think
that
can
add
a
lot
and
is
not
too
much
extra
work,
while
we're
in
the
middle
of
a
praise
to
think
of
what
need
was
met
by
the
action
that
were
that
we're
praising
and
with
that
I
just
want
to
open
for
any
discussion.
Questions
comments.
Yeah.
C
Thanks
everybody
for
not
fleeing
to
the
channel
the
moment
that
three
came.
A
I
also
want
to
go
a
little
bit
deeper
on
this
last
tc
praise
invitation
and
I
sent
the
discord
link
for
the
dc
and
there
we
have
this
cool
thing.
That
is
called
the
praise
system
where,
when
you
praise
other
people
after
some
time,
that
phrase
turns
into
our
token
the
token
of
our
project
and
then
we
distribute
tokens
as
a
reward
for
the
people
who
received
praise
rewarding
their
contribution.
A
So
if
you
haven't,
if
you
are
not
familiar
to
the
tc,
the
first
thing
you
have
to
do
is
to
join
into
the
discord
server
and
feel
the
the
some
of
the
things
for,
so
that
we
can
know
that
you're,
human
and
then
below
the
community
section.
A
There's
the
first
text
channel
is
called
praise
and
if
you
haven't
praised
before
the
first
thing
would
be
to
write,
slash,
activate
and
then
you
link
your
metamask
account
to
the
to
the
praise
system,
and
then
you,
you
use
the
slash
praise
command
and
you
then
write
the
handle
of
the
people
that
you
want
to
praise
and
the
reason
why,
for
they
are
receiving
that
phrase.
C
Thank
you
for
for
sharing
that
extra
explanation.
I
kind
of
assumed
everybody
would
know
about
our
our
ways,
but
that's
that's
very
good.
Thank
you.
Wonka
contessa,
you
had
your
hand
up.
Do
you
want
to
share
something
or.
E
I
do
I
did
not
know
that
I
needed
this
session
today.
I
did
not
know
what
to
expect.
I
did
not
know
what
you
were
going
to.
I
mean
I
had
an
idea
because
you
know
we
had
the
the
documentation,
but
when
I
first
came,
I
was
kind
of
sluggish
and
tired
and
worn
out
and
feeling
a
little
bit
of
pain
in
my
body
and
even
in
the
beginning,
when
you
said
you
know
to
kind
of
focus
in
and
feel
what
you're
feeling
I'm
like
yeah,
I'm
not
doing
that.
E
E
C
Well,
that's,
that's
so
awesome
contessa.
I
feel
I
feel
really
great
hearing
that
feedback
and
I
did
notice
that
in
the
beginning
you
didn't
have
the
camera
on.
Like
I
seen
your
smiling
face
the
last
couple
times
like
bright-eyed
bushy-tailed
but
then
like.
While
we
got
into
the
feelings
and
needs
you
you
seem
to
perk
up.
So
I'm
glad
I'm
glad
for
that.
Definitely.
F
Yes,
thank
you.
I
just
want
to
say
big,
big
big.
Thank
you.
I'm
really
grateful
for
today's
session.
You
know
when
I
was
coming
in
all
that
I
had
connected
with
nonviolent
communication.
Was
this
way
of
talking
like?
What's
a
life
in
you?
F
I
just
want
to
praise
every
single
speaker
that
you
know
every
single
lesson
so
far.
It's
amazing
I'm
enjoying
this
training
so
so
so
much
and
I
have
a
question
of
topic
but
related
with
the
with
the
training.
I
noticed
in
the
calendar
that
there
is
a
conflict
resolution
in
dao's
session
in
your
calendar,
guys
it's
up
for
thursday
and
I'm
curious
what
it
is
and
if
I
can
join
and
listen
and
maybe,
if
you'll
be
practically
using
some
tools
or
what
it
is.
A
I
can
I
can
answer
that
and
yeah
that
session
on
the
16th
was
an
invitation
from
the
metagame
community.
They
are
having
the
meta
farm
events
during
this
week
and
we
will
have
a
presentation
of
30
minutes
this
thursday
also
next
week.
A
It
will
be
my
session
and
I
am
really
happy
that
we
have
had
all
of
these
previous
topics
to
gain
momentum
to
to
my
session
and
to
because
I
am
going
to
try
to
wrap
everything
that
we
have
been
talking
about
in
the
past
sessions
and
try
to
make
it
like
really
practical
into
why
all
of
these
topics
that
we
have
been
talking
about
are
key
for
people
who
want
to
actually
facilitate
or
mediate
in
conflicts
and
yeah.
A
If
you
would
like
to
participate
on
this
thursday
call,
I
will
be
topic
talking
more
or
less
on
some
similar
things,
but
each
of
the
sessions
it
has
like
its
own
single
singularity.
A
So
if
you
want
to
to
come
to
this
thursday
session,
it's
cool,
but
also
on
next
tuesday,
I
will
be
leading
the
session
and
and
my
session
will
be
really
really
focused
on
how
to
put
in
practice
all
what
we
have
been
talking
about
in
the
situation
of
you
being
a
third,
a
positive
third
side
in
in
a
conflict
between
between
people.
C
C
Sorry,
every
anybody
who
was
writing
in
the
chat.
I
wasn't
able
to
to
stay
with
that
while
I
was
leading,
but
I
am
gonna-
save
this
and.
A
And
aloysius
is
raising
her
their
hand.
C
Absolutely
jump
right
in.
F
Hey
there,
I
just
wanted
to
add
an
accessibility
thing
for
juan
because
of
the
2
event
that
he'll
be
streaming
from.
I
wanted
to
say
that
it
live
streams
from
youtube,
so
when
it
comes
time
to
like
share
the
link,
just
sharing
the
live
stream
will
be
the
easiest
way
to
like
track
down
and
find
where
that's
happening.
F
That's
it.
I
just
wanted
to
pass
that
along
to
one
and
thank
you
for
today
I
loved
I
loved
the
feelings.
That's
a
that's
like
a
home
run
for
me.
I
think,
like
a
year
ago,
I
had
I
had
this
thing
where,
at
the
end
of
the
day
I
was
like
it
was
like
no
matter
what,
at
the
end
of
the
day,
because
stuff
does
happen,
every
single
day
just
ended
up
being
like
a
bad
day.
F
It
was
like
you
know,
it
could
be
like
good
mediocre
bad,
but
if
things
happened,
it
usually
fell
in
like
oh.
That
today
was
a
bad
day,
and
it
reminded
me
of
I
guess,
like
fast
food,
small,
medium
large,
how
small,
medium
and
large
has
like
changed
over
time
and
like
I
was
thinking
that
that's
how
my
emotions
were
that
there
was
something
I
was
doing
where
I
wasn't
like.
I
wasn't
actually
aware
of
my
emotions.
F
I
think
that's
what
it
was
is
that
I
didn't
actually
know
how
I
felt
at
the
end
of
the
day.
I
wasn't
taking
the
time
to
like
articulate
it
because
then
I
could
be
like.
Oh
you
know
today
was
like
a
really
frustrating
day.
I
don't
have
to
say
it's
a
bad
day.
Today
was
a
frustrating
day
so
yeah
a
year
ago,
I
like
built
out
my
vocabulary
for
emotions,
because
I
felt
like
it
was
really
small.
F
So
today's
thing
going
through
and
taking
the
time
to
go
through
the
different
feelings
or
whatever
and
being
exposed
to
those
words
like
you
know,
out
of
sight
out
of
mind,
you
don't
really
think
about
all
the
other
emotions
that
you
could
be,
but
if
they
are
in
the
front
of
your
mind,
it's
a
little
bit
easier
to
get
to
those
places,
or
at
least
that's
what
I've
noticed
from
that
exercise.
C
Yes,
the
feelings
and
all
the
variety
of
them
are
not
always
like
super
accessible,
and
that
was
definitely
the
reason
why
I
wanted
to
go
through
that
list
today
and
really
take
the
time,
even
though
it
ate
up
a
lot
of
our
session.
I
feel
like
it
was
worth
it.
So
thanks
everybody,
I'm
glad
you
your
feedback.
Let
me
know
that
you
know
that
it
was
my
my
intention.
C
That's
why
that's
what
that's
one
of
the
things
that
marshall
says
that
it's
not
just
important
that
we're
working
with
the
intention
to
serve
life,
but
we
need
we
need
feedback
to
know
for
certain
that
we
have
and
that's
what
is
so
important
about
gratitude.
Abby.
You
have
your
hands
up
abbas
abbas,
sorry,
jump
right
in.
D
Hey
everyone,
I'm
also,
quite
you,
know,
feeling
or
mood
of
gratitude
and
also
like,
I
would
say,
discovered
how
mellow
would
fit
and
say,
like
feeling
like
a
breeze.
I
could
say
then
like
as
if
we
were
on
a
some
peaceful
hill
and
could
feel
the
wind
as
if
there
were
no
trees
around
that.
D
D
Expressed
in
levels
like
so
many
comes
back
to
a
few
categories,
but
yet
inside
there
is
a
some
equal
feeling
like
each
happen
to
feel
similar.
I
don't
know,
what's
that
about
the
words
or
magic
or
feelings
like
the
magic
around
the
feelings
but
yeah.
D
I
think
I
I
should
have
really
use
praise
system,
for
example,
for
a
long
time,
and
by
coincidence
I
did
that,
like
last
week,
hey
like
why
I
am
not
doing
it
yes,
but
I
knew
what
was
stopping
me.
So
I
want
to
share
like
hey
that
thing
like
when
something
right
you
you
want
to
make
it,
but
there
is
a
time.
D
That's
been
that
stopping
you
somehow,
but
when
you
realize
it
shouldn't,
then
it's
all
opening
up
that
thing,
like
doesn't
matter
like
this
one,
just
one
thing
I
want
to
say
like
it's,
never
too
early
or
too
late
for
something
good.
You
know
you
can
do
anytime,
that's
like
never
early
or
late,
like
a
lot
of
people
are
missing
because
they
feel
it's
early
like
small
hand,
could
matter
a
lot
but
yeah.
D
I
don't
know
how
that
all
relates,
but
have
a
nice
evening,
and
thanks
for
this
one.
C
And
if
anybody
wants
to
unmute
and
jump
in
now's
your
chance
or
we're
going
to
drop
out
here
pretty
shortly.
E
All
right
I'll
tee
up,
I
have
let's
see
so
I
notice.
E
I
notice
a
sense
of
discomfort
like
some
agitation
and
like
anxiety.
E
Around
the
the
the
possibility
of
expressing
needs-
and
it
feels
like
a
sort
of
mind
field
right-
I
can-
I
can
totally
get
behind
like
observation
and
inference
right.
So
you
know
how
am
I
feeling
what's
the
impact?
What's
the
meaning
of
just
of
what
I
notice
and
what
I
sense
and
then,
when
I'm
sort
of
pressed
with
and
then
express
a
need,
there's
so
much
yeah
jesus
christ,
there's
just
so
much
that
can
go
bad
there
right
all
right,
I'm
a
big
fan
actually
of
expressing
desire
right
and
saying
what
you
want.
E
C
Yeah
yeah
needs
are
well
for
one
thing,
and
this
is
something
marshall
talked
about
a
bunch
is
that
we're
needs.
Our
top.
We're
taught
like
needs
are
like
a
bad
thing
like,
oh,
like
that's,
you're
being
needy,
and
yes
like
someone
framing,
they
can
someone
can
easily
frame
their
strategy
as
a
need
and
then
try
to
use
that
as
leverage
into
an
obligation
and
it's
sort
of
tough
to
you
know
if
you're
in
a
relationship
or
if
you're
you
know
involved
in
a
community
where
that
type
of
thing
is
happening.
C
You
know,
or
even
it
can
happen
we
can
express.
We
can
express
these
things
as
sort
of
like
in
a.
C
If
we're
not
being
conscious
about
the
way
we
connect
with
others
in
the
way
that
we
meet
our
needs,
we
could
any
of
us
could
slip
into
this.
This
sense
of
like
obligation
around
our
needs,
but
we're
we're
trying
to
kind
of
open
up
the
sense
of
needs
as
their
universal,
their
human,
the
universal
components
to
humanity,
and
that
you
know,
everybody's
everybody's
needs
can
be
met.
A
Worthwhile,
I
I
also
want
to
complement
that.
Sometimes
we
had
valid
needs
and
we
have.
I
identified
well
our
feelings
and
our
needs,
but
then,
when
we
try
to
express
a
request,
we
end
up
expressing
a
demand,
and
that
also
affects
the
communication
process,
because
maybe
you
can
have
valid
needs.
But
if
you
make
a
demand
instead
of
a
request,
the
other
person
would
feel
like
an
imposition
and
thus
will
trigger
defense
mechanisms
towards
your
needs,
and
that
could
be
worked
out.
A
If
we
also
think
on
the
way
that
we
are
making
our
requests.
A
I
think
that
in
the
book
marshall
says
that
one
of
the
things
that
you
can
use
to
identify
when
you
are
making
a
request
and
when
you
are
making
a
demand,
is
when
you
would
be
able
or
or
in
the
position
of
making
that
request.
Sometimes
we
demand
to.
We
make
a
request
to
others
of
things
that
we
wouldn't
be
able
to
deliver
and-
and
that
turns
our
our
intention
into
a
demand.
E
E
Yeah,
they
don't
have
to
fulfill
your
need,
but
so
we
need
to
be
ready
that
if
we
ask
for
something
we
don't
have
to.
E
Yeah,
the
other
person
isn't
like
always
going
to
do
it,
even
if
we
need
it.
So
there's
an
that's
another
thing
that
we
could
react
strongly
about.
I
already
asked
it
so
what's
going
on,
but
there's
a
next
step
where
it's
not
always
fulfill
our
petition,
and
I
also
want
to
comment
that
as
human
beings
in
human
global
rights,
we
should
have
some
needs
that
should
be
obligated
to
be
fulfilled
for
others,
and
we
don't
have
that
culture,
but
we
should
have
obligation
to
feed
someone
to
shelter
someone
to
give
peace
to
someone.
C
Yeah-
and
that
was
that
was
on
your
first
part
kind
of
ties
into
the
idea
of
strategies
that
a
lot
of
times
what
we
ask
somebody
we're
asking
what
our
request
is:
a
strategy,
a
specific
strategy
for
meeting
our
need
and
you're
right
nobody's
obligated
to
meet
our
needs,
but,
moreover,
sometimes
we're
just
asking
a
specific
way
to
meet
our
need.
But
even
then
no
one
is
obligated.
It's
more.
C
C
This
is
tied
in
with
marshall's
presentation
of
mvc
that,
and
I
don't
have
the
I
don't
know.
I
don't
have
the
information
right
on
me,
but
the
I
should
have
added
this
to
the
to
the
session
about
the
the.
C
Anyways
you're
totally
right-
I
just
I
I
can't
recall,
but
there's
but
part
of
the
research
around.
This-
involves
the
intention
towards
judging
an
economy
based
on
human
needs,
rather
than
you
know,
rich
people
getting
richer.
C
D
Oh,
actually,
that's
been
some
focal
point
in
my
works
or
maybe
also
sort
of
revelation,
but
still
exploring
that
expression
and
effective
expression
of
demand
and
well,
let's
say
it's
a
request.
But
in
a
context
maybe
producer
consumer
is
more
likely
you
you
have
the
chance
to
demand
stuff
or,
if
you're,
a
resident
or
a
citizen.
Whatever
you
got
that
chance
to
say
it's
a
demand,
because
that's
a
entity,
you
are
appealing
to
it's,
not
a
person,
that's
gonna
have
feelings
and
stuff.
D
That's
like
you
expect
something
legit,
so
that
could
go
demand,
but
I
would
love
to.
I
don't
know
approach
you
if
I
can
in
any
way
and
explore
how
the
expression
of
peace
can
be,
which
I
kind
of
kept
it
through
the
research.
But
it's
got
some
constants
where
people
can
say
like
what
we
do
in
the
praise
and
imagine,
like
everyone
praise
everyone
I
always
felt
like
hey
like.
I
should
be
able
to
praise
the
whole
like.
D
I
guess
I
ringed
it
or,
like
you
know,
like
a
group
by
like
mentioning
so
but
per
individual,
is
also
important.
That's
like
bringing
in
these
people
and
giving
that
homage,
but
yeah
for
expression
of
peace.
I
was
gonna
think
I
was
thinking
hey.
There
are
like
constant
conditionals
dynamics
and
potentials
in
that,
and
some
goes
more
like
a
constant
behavior.
You
can
say
like
hey,
I'm
in
peace
with
every
nation.
Doesn't
matter
you
don't
say
a
difference.
You
know
you
don't
maybe
say
these
countries
are
so
called
my
enemies.
D
You
know
like
that's
enforced
like
by
media
or
history,
but
I'm
not
ex.
You
know,
I'm
not,
inheriting
that
so
to
say
that's
a
constant
way
of
saying
that,
like
treating
everybody
equal
like
if
you
can
go
like
that,
high
on
that,
but
like
conditionals
are
more
likely
between
like
entities
like
states
or
creating
some
future
synchronization
around
this
expression
of
peace.
D
If
we
could
make
or
if
I
could
find
wiser
ways
and
you
could,
I
believe
you
could
give
a
lot
of
stuff
there
on
your
thoughts
and
that
would
make
it
something
really
full
of
those
feelings
that
are
good.
I
would
say
yeah
and
that's
so
maybe
expression
of.
C
Well
feel
free
to
reach
out
in
chat
in
the
gravity
channel.
You
can
reach
out
to
me
or
wonka
directly.
If
you
want
to
follow
up
on
any
of
that.
B
Hi
there
I
just
wanted
to
say
thank
you.
I
really
appreciate
you
bringing
marshall
rosenberg's
work
into
into
these
spaces.
I
feel
like
it
has
a
lot
to
say
not
just
about
basic
human
human
interactions,
but
how
we
might
organize
on
a
large
scale
like
because
once
you
start
unpacking
what
operating
from
these
kinds
of
needs-based
assessments
looks
like
it,
it
has
implications
for
the
per
collective.
B
Clarity
on
your
emotions
is
the
first
step
towards
being
able
to
intelligently
infer
what
another
person
might
might
be
feeling
and
so
create
operating
space
and
in
what
could
be
like
bandwidth,
starved
dynamics.
I'm
curious
if
we
could
talk
a
little
bit
about
like
the
hidden
costs
of
inauthentic
yeses.
B
I
think
that's
something
marshall
rosenberg
talks
about
directly
a
little
bit,
but,
like
I'm
curious,
if
anybody,
if
you
how
you
feel
like
this,
the
gratitude
work
are,
but
in
general,
if
you
have
any
perspectives
on
on
that
work
within
gravity
or
within
the
tech
in
general,
on
the
the
potential
pitfalls
or
points
to
navigate
around
when
people
give
a
yes
that
isn't
genuine
and
therefore
expensive,
whether
or
not
that's
not
that
they
don't
have
the
capacity
to
meet
the
need
or
whether
or
not
they
that
deprives
them
of
bandwidth
in
another
way,
like
yeah
yeah,.
C
C
And
marshall
does
talk
about
that,
but
his
you
know
his
is
centered
more
around
in-person
interaction.
So
if
you,
if
I
ask
you,
will
you
help
me
with
xyz,
I
can
hear
about
your
tone
of
voice.
C
You
know
how
the
level
of
excitement
that
you
actually
have
about
that,
where
probably
in
these
digital
spaces-
it-
I
don't
know
exactly
the
answer,
but
I
think
it
takes
more
conscientiousness
on
par
of
the
person
asking
and
I
don't
know
like
that's
a
good
question
of
what
to
what
to
do
with
that.
Specifically
in
digital
spaces.
I
might
I
don't.
A
I
also
think
that
this
is
a
long
life
learning,
so
it's
like.
A
You
you
continue
learning
every
day
and
by
practice
like
one
thing
is
understanding
it,
but
then
the
other
thing
is
practicing
it,
and
maybe
you
can
understand
that
you
are
responsible
for
your
own
feelings,
but
you
find
yourself
sometimes
telling
someone
other
hey.
I
am
feeling
because
you
and
then
you
like,
get
into
that
chip
and
you
say
to
yourself
hey,
I
I
am
giving
that
responsibility
to
that
other
people.
So
it's
like
a
a
lifelong
learning.
A
All
of
this
non-violent
communication,
all
of
this
conflict
management,
or
at
least
that's
the
way
that
I
perceive
it
because
we
all
all
the
time
will
face
conflict.
We
all
the
time
will
face
communicational
constraints,
all
the
time
where
we
are
talking
with
people
with
different
cultures,
with
different
backgrounds,
with
different
understandings
and
perceptions
of
reality.
A
So
being
aware
of
that,
the
way
that
we
express
our
feelings
and
our
thoughts
is
as
relevant
as
the
thoughts
themselves
and
the
impact
that
they
can
have
can
help
us
yeah
get
a
little
bit
further
into
the
way
that
we
coordinate
peacefully
and
and
that
we
coordinate
with
others
without
any
influence
of
or
type
of
violence.
A
B
If
you
don't
mind
me,
I'm
packing
the
wh.
Why
why?
Why
I'm
thinking
about
the
specific
subject
marsh
they
talk
about
in
their
work,
the
concept
of
like
emotional
triage
like
when
a
person
isn't
isn't
resourced?
B
To,
I
believe,
that's
martial
world's
birth
word
might
be
wrong
of
emotional
triage
when
a
person
isn't
resourced
to
be
able
to
answer
or
operate
within
the
parameters
you're
trying
to
set
forth.
There
are
ways
and
strategies
you
can
implement
to
like
to
help
give
them
the
operating
space
to
like
give
them
an
organizing
principle
and
I'm
k.
B
I
was
just
curious
to
like
to
begin
unpacking
what
it
might
look
like
to
develop
strategies
that
might
give
people
room
for
better,
better
yeses
and
no's
just
the
same
way
that
we've
had
to
work
to
like
develop,
share
presence
over
the
last
number
of
years
with
each
other
like
how
do
we
develop
working
relationships
when
we're
not
in
the
same
country
so
I'll
be
following
this
like
I'll,
be
subject
long
term
with
pretty
great
interest,
but
I
think
it
was
feels
really
necessary.
C
It
might
be
helpful
to
use
that
as
like
a
start
starting
point
to
think
of
how
do
we
talk
with
people
when
we
know
that
there's
gonna?
We
already
know
ahead
of
time
that
there's
gonna
be
some
reasons
why
they
might
say
no
or
whatever,
and
then
we
could
use
that.
And
then
you
know
build
a
template
from
that.
A
I
I
also
want
to
compliment
that
this
tides
up
really
good
with
the
last
session
that
morgan
presented,
because
and
I
sent
this
image.
A
That
is
a
very
more
psychological
concept
that
is
called
the
window
of
tolerance
and
is
how
you
can
identify
three
states
of
of
hyper
hypo
hyperarousal,
optimal
arousal
zone
and
hypoarousal,
and
one
of
the
things
that
you
should
try
to
do
to
have
to
build
ground
for
communication
is
to
bring
that
other
person
into
the
optimal
arousal
zone,
and
for
that
you
have
to
identify
if
their
first
reaction
is
being
directed
by
a
triggering
of
fight
or
flight
or
if
they
are
being
triggered
by
a
hypo,
arousal
reaction
of
freeze
or
phone
where
so
so
you,
when
you
are
talking
with
someone
regarding
a
conflict,
one
of
the
first
things
is
to
try
to
conduct
them
into
the
optimal
arousal
zone
where
they
can
process
what
you
are
telling
them
and
also
expl
be
able
to
communicate.
A
Because
if
you
try
to
talk
with
someone
who
is
in
their
hyper
arousal
or
in
their
hype,
arousal
zone,
you
will
end
up
the
the
defense
mechanisms
that
come
with
the
re.
The
immediate
reaction
of
of
trauma
that
we
talked
about
in
last
session.
C
Yeah,
that's
a
good.
I
did
really
like
that.
I
had
never
heard
so
many
like.
I
just
recently
heard
there's
fight
flight
reflex
and
then
there's
the
freeze
and
then
but
morgan,
just
added
like
a
a
bunch
more
to
it
that
I
don't
even
remember
it
all
off
the
top
of
my
head,
but
that's
something
I
want
to
spend
some
more
time
with
for
sure.
A
I
I
am
really
happy
because
sometimes
when,
when
people
see
the
graviton
training
study
plan,
they
see
they
say
like
hey.
How
are
you
going
to
connect
so
many
different
topics,
but
I
see
them
really
connected
one
to
each
other
and
like
once,
we
we
continue
advancing
in
the
sessions.
You
will
see
how
all
of
this
ends
up
being
like
important
pieces
of
a
puzzle
that
that
you
can
play
and
moving
in
different
in
in
different
positions
when
trying
to
face
a
conflicted
situation.
A
So
yeah
how
how
trauma
can
be
connected
with
nonviolent
communication,
trauma-sensitive
culture,
and
you
end
up
seeing
that
when
you
are
trying
to
communicate
with
someone
non-violently,
you
also
have
to
be
able
to
to
to
understand
the
state
of
mind
of
the
other
person
and
what
is
the
trauma
that
they
are
carrying
or
acting
to
or
responding
to
so
so
all
of
this
gets
gets
connected
to
to
to
the
whole
intention
of
the
course,
but
yeah
with
that.
A
I
don't
know
if
other
one
wants
to
close
this
session,
but
I
think
we
are.
We
are
very
past
the
hour
and
it
it
has
been
a
really
really
cool
session.
A
A
And
yeah:
let's
keep
in
touch,
see
you
next
tuesday
in
this
session
and
if
you
want
to
come
to
the
thursdays,
call
that
we
will
have
a
small
presentation
from
for
the
metagame
community.
You
are
also
super
invited.